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Submitted by lilsadone on Thu, 06/21/2012 - 11:41am

Just curious, for those of you who ended up not being able to make your relationships work with your DH or SO mostly due to poor parenting/skid problems - and broke up - are there any of you who ended up getting back together after being separated for a period of time? IF you got back together, were things better the 2nd time around?

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Thu, 06/21/2012 - 4:28pm

I ended it with my ex SO bc of skid issues, but more of how he allowed me to be treated. I still miss him, but I know he is the same person so if we reconciled it would end the same way. Even if he said he changed I'd have to see the changes first and so much damage has already been done to my trust for him that I probably couldn't truly forgive him. And that is not fair to either of us.

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Submitted by stepmisery on Thu, 06/21/2012 - 3:20pm

Anytime a couple breaks up, that break up occurs for a reason. If there is to be a genuine reconciliation, the reason has to have been fixed.

When it comes to parent/child problems, those issues are difficult to resolve. Many times the parent has to overcome not only their own parenting, but from where they learned it - the way they grew up. This is major life change. Then the child is going to be resistant to change because that is how it is has been all the child's life.

The length of time it will take to effect such an enormous change will take so long and move so slowly that likely the waiting party will become ready to move on.