What do you do when you are at court?
I am curious, when you have gone to court with BM or your ex spouse what do you do when you are sitting in the tiny waiting room together. Do you acknowledge each other, do you sit and pretend that they don't exist? I am sure it various whether your situation is hostile or not.
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We pretend she doesn't exist.
We pretend she doesn't exist. I literally look past her and he skanky scumball of a husband.
We're very HC.
Ignore the whore. BioHo loses
Ignore the whore. BioHo loses her temper and cuts her own throat every damn time. Maybe she think Jerry Springer is hidden and looking for potential "stars".
DH and I rarely had to be in
DH and I rarely had to be in the same tiny room with Medusa, but when we did, we would completely ignore her and Lurch.
We would chat with each other about the new tv/couch/bedroom set/wedding ring/whatever we just purchased or we would chat with Awesome Attorney about his kids/trips/whatever.
It just feels so
It just feels so uncomfortable. I had court yesterday about support and he brought his wife and they sat about 10 feet away from myself and my attorney. I didn't even look at him or her ( I feel bad about her because she is a nice lady). They were running late with the magistrate so we sat there for 45 minutes...Ick.
No offense but did you think
No offense but did you think it would be anything but uncomfortable? You guys aren't on the best of terms, correct? And don't communicate verbally?
No offense taken zero, I knew
No offense taken zero, I knew it was going to suck, especially because of some manipulation he pulled a head of time. In some ways I feel weak because maybe the right thing is to be polite and acknowledge the other person instead of not looking in their direction.
And it is a good thing that I do everything in writing because he tried really hard to make me look like a liar and I was pulling something on him when I wasn't and I had provided information to him regarding my insurance.
It actually came out that there are so many things that he is required to pay for that I don't include and just pay for myself because it is not worth the argument.
Yes the right thing is to be
Yes the right thing is to be polite. BUT he's an ass... so he's not worth it. Thankfully it was just uncomfortable and not anything worse then that.
Bring a book like "Rude
Bring a book like "Rude bitches make me tired ". In your case, a book about abusive assholes since no kids are present in that tiny room.
And read it out loud.
And read it out loud.
Other than a waste of time
Other than a waste of time because the court told him my lawyer's calculations were right, that I was not lying or hiding anything, he demanded cancelled checks to prove I paid for daycare, that actually he gets off pretty easy because he never has to pay for medical bills because I just pay anything insurance doesn't, that any non school days that I use daycare that I alone pay for that and do not pass any of that onto him and that per our decree he should have to pay for next week's daycare entirely because he is taking BS out of school on a vacation and if you do that you have to pay the full amount verses the 25 or 30% he pays... but I am just leaving it as is.
Oh and I pay the insurance too.
The problem is because I make more money he thinks I should pay for everything and he should be able to boss me around... wait we are not married anymore.
You gals are all nutso. I
You gals are all nutso. I have no clue what you would do, because I don't go. No fecking way am I going to sit in some tiny little waiting room with either skank bomb BM without having a panic attack or ripping someone's throat out. Nope, DH got himself into those messes, if he has to go to court, he puts on his big boy underoos and he goes by himself.
I was subpoenaed by BM the
I was subpoenaed by BM the last time we were in court for custody (June?).
Sweet, just wanted to say
Sweet, just wanted to say that I'm so glad you got away from that miserable, controlling, domineering nutball. He put you through Hell, and it must have been very uncomfortable for you to be that close to him. You are one tough Momma!
Thanks Julie, I appreciate
Thanks Julie, I appreciate that. A lot of people on here are gone from when I went through the divorce and think because I am just a BM now that I am evil. It is so hard to be around him much less know that BS is going on vacation with him for a week after this. He told BS that we had a meeting this Wednesday. I was pissed, I had no intention of BS knowing about court. God only knows what he will say since it didn't go his way. He loves to say crap in front of BS about me.
I am actually glad his wife was there so she got to here the real truth on the situation not his crazy interpretation that may or may not be what happened.
The good news it is now in the hands of the state and they will deal with it all going forward. We may end up in mediation regarding visitation and that is fine... I am prepared for that. He could not even make it to conferences and rarely follows through with anything.
It was very obvious that he has been pumping BS for information and got mis informed. I wish he would worry more about his own house verses fishing for dirt on mine.
I had to testify so I had to
I had to testify so I had to go. We all sat in the courtroom until it was DH's turn. DH was quiet and stressed' BM and her posse were all giggles. Then it was our turn and I was asked to leave out which I did. BM testified then Dah and then I was called and dismissed. Soon after the doors bursted open and BM's cousin ran sobbing into the bathroom soon followed by BM's mother who had to coax the girl to come back out and wait in the hall where I was sitting. I played on my phone honestly and paid them no mind. I watched as BM and DH be escorted into a little room with their lawyers and then less than five minutes later they were back out and going back into the courtroom. That was their "mediation" amd BM wasn't having any of its so the judge determined the schedule and dismissed them.
Never been in this situation,
Never been in this situation, but knowing myself I will start playing mind games with her
ACtually will not work, our courts do not have waiting rooms, you all sit out side on benches? and way apart...
but I still play mind games, be very confident, play on your phone...and ignore
I get the heebie jeebies when
I get the heebie jeebies when that slore of a BM2 is in my house for 5 minutes, let alone sit in a tiny room with her. I literally jump out of my skin and want to heave when she's near. She came in Christmas Eve late morning with Friend and I had to keep leaving the room.
I would go if DH asked me to but there is no ignoring BM2. She'd be trying to nearly sit on DH's face if given the chance.