YES, all I hear from DH's family is "BM is a wonderful person..." Oh the fuck she is, she is dumb as a rock and lies about her life cause it's embarrasing so STFU.

My lazy day is not "allowed"-- I should be doing things around the house( although he has 4 days off a week and I work M-fri...yes this pisses me off, If I am tired and want to watch tv and sit on my bum for the day I get tude and smart ass comments being made of things that need done....he does no wrong and can sit in the garage all day that he is off cutting up with the guys and when i get off work complains over having to hurry and get dinner done-WTH...good men are hard to come by these days and ya cant fix the ones you have...we screwed either way.

Uh, yea....kind of. All I hear the in-laws say is how they feel sorry for BM, because she has it so rough and has so much to deal with. I think it is total BS. BM has no job. Her husband has no job. They both stay at home all day, living off of child support and welfare. She has ONE kid at her house to take care of. We have her oldest two at our house, plus our two bios, plus SO works full-time, and I work as well. I don't expect the in-laws to say "wow you guys have a lot of responsibility"-BUT, it would be nice if they stopped saying how hard BM has it, when she CHOOSES not to work...we pay her CS (which she spends on herself), and take care of her kids 75% of the time. Get real, MIL. BM is a lazy ho.

Yes! By SO and MIL. Seeing as how BM was a total screw-up, though, the comparison from DH is always favorable. MIL, on the other hand, could control the BM, so she preffers BM to me. Kept telling BM that DH just needed to get his head on straight and would come running back to BM, and then would tell DH that he was making a bed he didn't want to lie in by upsetting BM and that he needed to go groveling back to BM. To some extent, I suppose the whole bed thing is true. Oh, and BM was a virgin when she got together w/ DH, so was a saint in MIL's eyes (I, however, am a complete slut /eyeroll). Yeah, MIL pretty well hates me. Lets it be known by barely acknowledging *our* kid - her biological grand-child. Oh well. Her loss.

I am lucky in that all of my Il's and DH's friends HATE both BMs... and it's simply because they are bitchy ass scumbags, who are virtually impossible to like. Even BM1 own family bitches about what a horrible, rotten person she is.

The only thing that sucks is that I think MIL and DH had this expectation that because I am so completely different (in a good way) from BMs that I was going to swoop in and "save" SS and SD from the psycho BMs. I think I almost thought this for a while at first, but quickly realized that no matter what BMs do or don't do, SD and SS will ALWAYS be loyal and true to them and will always throw me directly under the bus.