So, we have had SS3 for about a week and a half. Moby is in jail for at least 20 days and at most 90 days. And SS is not reacting the way we expect he would...

He hasn't asked to see or speak to his mother... At all... Not once.
He has asked if he was going to his mother three times but in the "Is this why we're getting in the car? No? Alright then." Sort of way
His language skills have absolutely taken off.
He listens 100 times better than he did a week and a half ago
When he has spoken to her on the phone I think a grand total of 2 or 3 times he has hardly spoken at all. Barely says a word to her. But he'll talk to my mom on the phone and just go on and on and on like crazy.
A few days ago he was playing with my phone, I asked him if he wanted to call someone. He thought about it for a little bit and he said "Aunty J" my sister. So we called Aunty J, she was sleeping. Then he said "Oma!" my mom and that's when he just talked like crazy to her. He never asked to speak to his mother.
Today I finally broke down and had a talk with him. I asked him where he thought his mom was. He said he thinks she's at her house. I asked him if he was sad about not seeing her for so long. He said he was. And I reassured him that she loves him, that she had to go bye bye because of her bad choices that had absolutely nothing to do with him, and that he would see her again sometime. But he acted like he didn't really care... He just started talking about the hospital I work at.

And there are a bunch of little examples as well. He just doesn't seem that torn up about not seeing his mother in 11 days. And I find that incredibly depressing that at three years old he has such a weak connection to his mother that he doesn't even ask for her or really show much interest in speaking to her.

I really want to know what's going on in this little kid's head. In February he didn't see his father for 24 days then sees him but not at all close to the time he used to see him. Then in May he doesn't see his mother for, really, God only knows how long.

Her family had been planning on hiding him from us but none of them have called to ask how he is or to see him? She basically runs from jail for three days to spend time with her boyfriend but doesn't even try to call her only son on Mother's Day? She has money on her account in jail to make phone calls but she only calls him sporadically without any real rhyme or reason? Her entire family has either openly complained about her, kicked her out of their homes, or refused to help her but we're the bad guys for trying to go for primary custody so he has a stable living environment?

I do not understand that woman or that family at all and I think SS3 is already starting to see that maybe living with Mommy isn't such a wonderland after all. He even said, "I want to live with Daddy and you."