I have often wondered why SM's are required to care for the SC in every way that we care for our own children but we have no rights. I also wonder why no one else has a right to harass us but the law does nothing when the BM does so. I wonder, as well, what gives BM's the right to make our life and the life of the children a living hell with no worries that our justice system is going to put a stop to it.
The BM in my case has gone as far as telling her kids that she hates them, wishes they would die, told them they could not come back to her house, physically abused them, emotionally and mentally scarred them, probably for life. At the moment, 2 of the 3 SC live with us (my husband, our baby and myself.) The BM refuses visitation of the 3rd. We are going through a custody battle (aptly named, in this case) and are always on pins and needles waiting for the BM's next crazy move. The woman is a piece of work. We have pics of brusies she has left on the boys yet she has somehow convinced DHS that I "messed with the pics to make it look like that." Hey, I'm good but not that good. Besides, it would be better for everyone if she were a decent mom and a positive part of her kids life. But that all falls on my shoulders. I love the kids dearly and would give my life for theirs. I only wish their BM felt the same.