Last night my dad and sister came over to have dinner with us before SD (3.5 years) had to go home. I had made a yummy stirfry loaded with veggies. SD dropped a pea on the table and I started to laugh and told her what my parents used to say if my sister or I ever dropped a pea during meal time. They would laugh and say "You 'peed' on the table" (I had awesomely weird parents, lol) So the next time she dropped a pea she looked at me and said "look mom" I said "haha SD 'peed' on the table" and she started giggling. I said "now when you go back to your mom's house if someone drops a pea on the table you can make them laugh by making this joke." SD said "but we don't have peas at my moms house" my sister asked "well what kind of vegetables do you get at your moms house?" SD said "I don't eat vegetables at my moms" We all just sat there not knowing what to say.
We knew her mom fed her McDonalds at least twice week, but now we also know that she doesn't eat vegetables when she is there. Good job BM.

Now the thing that made me laugh...

We dropped SD off at BM's aunts house last night instead of BM's appartment, as requested by BM. BM came out of the house and was waiting about 10 feet from the van on the other side of the driveway. DH and I said goodbye to SD and she took her travel bag from DH. DH asked if she had it okay and she said "yup I have it" she started walking toward her mom carrying the bag without any struggle. Her mom asked if she had it and she instantly dropped it in the snow and said "no I can't do it" Her mom came running toward her and said "it's okay I have it baby"
DH got in the van and both of us just laughed. We knew that SD was never encouraged to do things for herself or act her age at BM's house (she still has a soother and JUST stopped sleeping in a crib and is now in a toddler bed. Our 16 month old daughter is already in a twin bed and hasn't had a soother since her first birthday) but it still makes us laugh because SD has total control over her mother but NEVER tries to manipluate us that way.