So recently, DH went to finally get proceedings going on lowering his CS (he's been paying too much for far too long, and don't ask me why he waited until NOW to do something about it!). On Aug 12th he signed the papers and had the lawyer send them her way. Well, today, we got her "response" to the documents, arguing why CS shouldn't be lowered (naturally). We read through them and we couldn't help but laugh at some of the allegations she's claiming.

Mind you, the following points are why CS should NOT be reduced (and our reasoning behind these allegations). #1 and #2 are the funniest!

1. She now goes by her maiden name, not her former married name which DH had stated on the papers
2. SD10's middle name ("Ann") is spelled with an "E" - so clearly, DH doesn't know his daughter AT ALL!
3. Her oldest daughter (DH's SD13) has been living in foster care for 3 years and hasn't seen DH in as long, nor did she WANT to see him and she even calls him by his first name and not "Dad" (as instructed by her mother) - this just proves that she should be dropped from the CS; further, it proves that BM's been accepting her portion of the CS on fraudulent grounds
4. She claims that DH told her that he took SD10 and SS12 off his medical plan so she had to fork out $40 for SS12's meds (and this is AFTER she received and accepted $36,000 from the gov't for the kids' Disability) - this was during the time DH was trying to get a new insurance card and we had a heck of a time chasing it down
5. She claims DH gets paid "under the table" as well through payroll, so she's questioning his family's business practices - the kids saw DH take out cash and give it to me to put into my bank account because my account is the one that bills/rent come out of (I'm the only that writes the cheques), so they probably assumed he was "hiding" money in another account
6. BM is questioning why it's only NOW that he's lowering CS, and not before - well, he just never thought about it before and to be honest, her spending has gotten so out of hand as of late (so much so that they're at risk of being evicted for the 3rd time) that she SHOULDN'T have all this extra money to play with. I mean, where has all the money been going if her bills/rent can't be paid???
7. BM claims that it's his parents that actually pay the child support and not him - it actually gets deducted from his salary (through the family business), so yes, it IS DH that pays it; he just doesn't see any of it because it goes straight to her
8. BM says that CAS has been involved with them since the "domestic violence endured at the hands of DH in the presence of the children" (the actual words used)- 1. this "domestic violence" involved DH trying to move past BM who was blocking the doorway, 2. CAS has actually been involved with BM from the day her oldest was born - she was caught SHAKING her! - not just since that incident with DH, 3. What does THIS have to do with CHILD SUPPORT???
9. BM claims that the kids are "disturbed by DH's inconsistency" with picking them up (ok, he has skipped a few visits, but most for good and legitimate reasons)...yet when they were supposed to be at our house for a week this summer, she calls and tells SD10 that she got a new puppy, so that made the skids want to go home that night! AND she said that she wanted to keep the kids THIS weekend (which was supposed to be OUR weekend - we were gonna take them to the Fair)...so WTF? She's the one making all these crazy switches and DH is the one who's "inconsistent"?!?

BM is really scrambling to discredit DH with these weak claims. The lawyers have the figures, so what's there to debate about? And it's funny because some of her points are actually helping us out - we didn't know exactly WHEN her oldest started living in foster care, but now we do so we can pinpoint the exact date when she started hording her child's money for her own personal use! And WTF does her maiden name have to do with anything? I mean, seriously? DH's lawyer doesn't thing she has a leg to stand on - he can back all of her claims up with proven documentation. BM knows she's gonna lose her manicure/tanning/piercing money, so she's running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

I mean, if she wants to bring it, then bring it. I've got documentation of everything she's said and done, and what the kids have told us, for the last 7-8 years. She'll be lucky if it's just a portion of her CS she's losing!