The BM is really eager to ditch the SDs onto us. Originally wanted to do it with no legal paperwork (currently she has full custody and we have them stay EOW and she wants that reversed). She reckoned that it has all changed from when she did a custody thing in 2005 and now no paperwork needed doing. I spent the afternoon ringing the relevant organisations and found out what needed to happen ie lawyer filing a variation of parenting order and wrote down what she needed to do. I fully expected her to argue and not agree to it because it will mean she wont be able to claim the govt benefit for families anymore which she reckons she needs to live on - but - surprise surprise she meekly told my husband "yep no problem, can I keep the piece of paper!" She is desperate to ditch them probably cause she has a new boyfriend on the scene!! It will be a good thing cause the girls are really unhappy at BMs as they keep telling us.