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Submitted by kikgirl005 on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 12:23am

I just joined this website, and i have to say i'm completely relieved!!! I never knew there were so many people that felt the same way i do! I have a step daughter that is now 11. I can honestly say that i HATE her. After being with my husband for over 5 years (married 2 and a half) and we still dont have a relationship, I just dont want to try anymore. Worse part is, my husband has full custody so shes ALWAYS with us. I just had my son 3 months ago and she was saying this like "oh he has his hands on his chest like he's dieing" "hes so quiet like hes dead" "oh your squeezing him to death" now i completely have no trust in her whatsoever and feel like she might do something to him. I don;t want him in his room by himself sinc his room is right next to hers and my husband is getting mad that i want his crib in our room and saying that i have no reason not to trust her. I don;t know what to do. Figured I'd post something here and get some feedback! Sad

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Submitted by buttercookie on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 12:29am

Go with your gut feeling. Its your responsibility to protect your own and while I'd hate to say it'd never happen you may not want to risk his safety to find out. There are too many horrible stories on the news and such about things kids will do. He's only 3 months I'm suprised your husband is even bothered by having him in your room. I think at 6 months you can reassess the situation. I know people who keep their kids cribs in there room for the first year.

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Submitted by Nobratsallowed on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 6:27am

I have an SD11. She's lazy and thinks that she's the only one that matters in the universe. When the bio realizes that their child is not Golden and is actually as human as the rest of us, it may get better, but until he realizes that the relationship between you and him comes first - because the little bugger will go off on her own one day (no, really, that's the way it's supposed to be, I hear) and she won't give a damn about him - unless he's a source of money, it won't change. Pre-teens without a conscience are scary.

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Submitted by shootingstarz on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 10:16am

Ew. That is creepy. I would be livid if my DH's kids ever said shit like that about my infant. I'd tell her she isn't allowed in the nursery. Period.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 6:23pm

Put a webcam in the nursery actually put two in, one she knows about and one she don't. Tell her you will be watching and you will discipline her if she does anything to the kid.

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Submitted by shmily12 on Sun, 04/01/2012 - 10:50am

I also have a SD11, and i thank God i don't see or ear anything negative about me as yet. But she still stands between my DH and i way... I think this is because when my SD comes around she knows better that she can not F*** w/ me and i don't play that S*** either! My DH and i don't have a child of our own yet, but i want us to hurry and have one right now, while i'm still 29 turning 30 soon so that lil' ruggrette can stay in her place where she belongs. My DH treats her like she is like a lil' child, or the one and only and last child in this universe that he would have, and treats her like this lil' princess that she is far from... So yea, just like everyone has indicated here, i will protect my new born and keep my baby away from her rather my DH likes it or not!