Well hello everyone once again I am back looking for advice and giving a little. SD is now about to be 7 in July and she is coming to live with us full time as soon as school is out which is in 3 weeks. We are going to take her to a doctor to see if she has ADHD because now that we have full custody of her we are able to. Anyways please let me explain i am not one of those people that thinks loading a kid up with drugs will make my life better its simply to make her life better. The reason we think she possible has ADHD is because of the symptoms she has which we knew about her activities at our house but were not told about the situation at school fully until we found note wrote home in her assignment note book about 2 months ago from her teacher. We had heard at the start of school she had hit 2 boys on 2 different occasions so after the first i told her i would take her to the police dept. if it happened again and the next week it did. we drove her there and she was scolded by a big mean looking officer. I thought her being 5 she would be going to the bathroom in her pants cause me at 5 or even 10 would of done that. LOL Anyways she didn't seem to be phased she sat spinning in a rolling chair with her hands on her head until the officer was done and said can i have a look around or something? My jaw dropped.It helped what we thought for a little while but at school another thing was happening which we found out about in her notebook At school she has weekly been hitting others, running away when its time for recess to be over and not coming inside until a teacher has to go find her, not completing homework and work to be done during school hours,always trying to find something to keep her occupied like picking at her nails,skin anything she can find to keep her hands moving(does this at home also),she talks back to the teacher, has been found in the classroom after school messing up another students desk that was just cleaned earlier in the day,she doesn't follow directions and disrupts the class, she shoved a desk and threw a chair the list goes on when we discovered this was happening at school she said because all they do is make her sit in the office and the don't spank her. Mind you she has been spanked on her behind 3 times her whole life and its been by myself for disrespecting other and hurting other children. When SD at MIL house she doesn't listen and talks back lies and has been banned from going over to every child in the neighborhoods house. At my house which is every weekend and every break she gets from school (days off)she cant not seem to get the concept of rules and to tell the truth. If you tell her to go upstairs and turn her tv off and grab her coat she will do one and forget about the other. SD wont tie her own shoes with out huffing and puffing which i don't put up with. She wont eat anything that's not cheese pizza,cheese burgers,fries,fried chicken/chicken nuggets, hot dogs or chips i Have a 2 year old that will eat anything you put in front of her and i want to keep it that way because she rather have green beans the fries. She has actually forced herself to throw up so she didn't have to eat something about 5 months back and will go without food and not think twice about it if its not something she likes.My Husband has finally got over the denial that she is starting to be a problem and there might be something more wrong then just her adjusting to life at our house since its been 4 years she has been coming over on the weekends at the least. He no longer sleeps with her and actually stopped right after my post about her trying to sleep with him every night at MIL house during the week she sleeps with MIL every night with the TV on when, she doesn't have to clean up after herself, brush her teeth(eeewww), get dressed by herself, make her bed or anything so its a struggle getting her into a grove when she gets here. When we took MIL to SD counselor they wanted us Me and HB and MIL & FIL to say what she does at our house to compare rules and discipline so we go through our list and MIL just sat and said yeah we do that at my house also to everything I said but when you ask SD its all not true and I have been over there and seen it myself.MIL has a reason why SD cant make her bed (its to big) cant tie her shoes (we are always rushing out the door)Any suggestions or anyone with children with ADHD and does that sound like it could be ADHD