Has anyone else ever.....
My SS9 almost 10 has a very big issue with going number 2. He holds his poo until his body can't/won't hold it any longer and then needs up pooping his pants. He has told us that it hurts to go, that he doesn't know when he needs to go and now the most honest answer of them all is "I don't want to take time to go". What can we do to correct this behavior. If he has an accident in his pants he has to hand wash his underwear by himself and he looses things he loves to do. Also his favorite thing in the world is video games, so he now can only play when we know for a fact he actually went poo. I don't know what else to do....ugh
Please help 
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I would love an answer to
I would love an answer to this problem too. SD10 has been pooping and peeing her pants forever. She also says that she's too lazy or didn't want to stop what she was doing to go.
Have you taken him to a Dr.?
Have you taken him to a Dr.? does he do it at school or only at home?
There was a poster here a while back with a skid about the same age who would do the same shit (
) He NEVER did it as school though, only home...which lead everyone to believe he was just being a passive aggressive little prick. However they did take him to the Dr. and the Dr. thought maybe it hurt him to go, so they put him on stool softeners and told them to regulate his diet....
Make him shut off the video
Make him shut off the video games every 20 minutes to go to the bathroom. If he doesn't have to go, he sits there for 10 minutes with the game off. Sounds like he doesn't want to stop playing the game to go to the bathroom. FORCE HIM TO STOP PLAYING the game until he learns it's better to just shut it off and go when he has to instead of you forcing a shut off every 20 min.
What helped my SD the most
What helped my SD the most was using a timer. Can't remember for sure but i think we had SD sit on the toilet every hour on the hour for 5 minutes. It began to annoy her in that she had to stop whatever she was doing just to "try" to go to the bathroom. When she could prove that she was doing better, she was able to start setting the timer every other hour for 5 minutes and so on.
SS had the same issues...till
SS had the same issues...till he reached 12, but his excuse was that he felt uncomfortable doing that in public places.
At 12 years of age, he grew out of it, his older step brother, my bio, kinda led the "who cares where you poop train, its dumb to not want to do that in public, or anywhere but your own private bathroom"
And he just followed suit.
Good luck!
I can only pray he grows out
I can only pray he grows out of this, because there are times he doesn't go for a week and then it seeps out... :sick:
He will come home from school
He will come home from school with poop in his pants that he sat in all day, but says no one ever says anything about him smelling. He has done it at home also. Sunday I told him I knew he hadn't went for almost 2 days and he told me it's because he just doesn't want too, I had him go to the bathroom and he wasn't even in there 5 mins and went poop. Drives me and his dad so crazy, none of the other kids do this kind of stuff.
I do and he does it without
I do and he does it without complaining
The stature thing may be true
The stature thing may be true as well, my SS10 is the not much bigger than SS7. SS10 takes hormone shots every night. Maybe this could be a problem, I don't know. DH says he has done this off and on for years. Currently he is not allowed to play video games at all because of misbehaving, so I don't understand what's keeping him from doing it now.
I have threatened him with wearing pull ups
He has had a pretty rough
He has had a pretty rough life. According to my MIL his BM was almost abusive with him. Yelling, spanking and name calling when he was very young. When DH and BM divorced BM went bat shit crazy and has had around 5 "serious" boyfriends" around and some living with them in a 3 year time period. BM lost custody by KY state cps because she attempted suicide (which the kids only know the police and ambulance showed up, don't know why). She also has had a drinking problem and we think a meth problem as well. We took custody in March of this year and DH was awarded sole custody in Indiana in September. BM has supervised visits which she doesn't use, it's been 2 months since she has seen the kids. My skids have been through hell and back, we are trying so hard to pick up the pieces for them. Some days I don't know if we can ever make it okay.
I think it's time for us to
I think it's time for us to get serious about therapy for him, SD8 and SS7.
Thank you
I PM'd you, OP. Encopresis
I PM'd you, OP. Encopresis sounds like the culprit. Nasty disgusting stuff. Takes a LONG time to fix