I have been married to my 2nd husband for seven years and have three grown step children who have never lived with us. My husband is a very wonderful man and will do anything for anybody but will never tell his children that they are wrong. I also have three kids and my husband has a wonderful relationship with them and I have tried to do the same with his children but seems to be impossible. He is very afraid of any kind of conflict especially with his children. My step daughter originally lived in town up until about a year and a half ago but recently had a child and came back for a while. While she was here she proceeded to give me a hard time about the fact that we never go out to visit his youngest son that does nothing but argue with me give me a hard time every time he comes home. I am a nice person and have done nothing or interfered in the lives of my stepchildren ever. Every time he comes home there is some kind of argument or backstabbing that goes on. The last time my stepson was home he said there was not enough pictures of them in the house. Sometimes I feel like I am dealing with a bunch of 12-year-olds instead of adults. They tell me I take vacations all the time and why don't we ever come and see them. They want to know when they're going to be a priority in our lives. My husband and I have both worked our entire lives and raised our families from the time that we were 20 years old and now it should be our time to do with what we want. All their father does is do things for them but they never reciprocate ever. My marriage is failing because of his children who don't even live here. We are going out there to see them for three or four days and my step daughter gave me a hard time and wondered why we weren't staying longer. I have a newer job and not a lot of vacation time, so I was saving a few days to be able to go to see them. Since we have been married she has not had a real full-time job ever so she would never understand what it's like. Their mother, my husbands ex-wife, gets involved in the drama and interferes in our marriage and I'm sick of that also. I feel like no matter what I do it is never enough! I'm just exhausted and fed up. I'm just to the point that I don't care anymore and it makes me sad because that's not who I am.