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Submitted by Jsmom on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 10:08am

I have disengaged in my house this week and it is not getting any better. My SD and her Dad had an argument last night and he grounded her from everything. She somehow got a phone and called the BM and she called the husband to tell him to lay off SD. 45 minutes later and he is so frustrated, that I offered to move back to my house since it has not sold. She told the mom about me correcting her on silverware when setting the table and making her use a side door to come in the house.

Long week already!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 01/28/2010 - 9:52am

Since the the therapy on Monday, I am still festering. After DH going on about the decorating and my inability to allow him to have a say, which is bullsh... I have barely spoken to him. Also, since I get attacked anytime I point out anything about SD13, I have barely spoken to the kid. What is the point, if everything I do is seen as hostile to her. So I spend a lot of time in my office or my room. He however watches 3 hours of TV with her in the same Family room that he won't let me re-deocrate. Every night that they are here, it is all her.

Frustrating! Need to vent!!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 01/26/2010 - 11:05am

Last night we go to therapy and I felt like I got ganged up on. Things have been better between us. Turns out things that were in the past not so much anymore. He has issues with me coming in and decorating the house my way. I gave up a home I loved to move in with him. Because his house was one bedroom bigger than mine. I gave up walk-in closet and nicer bathroom. He said I would have carte blanche to decorate how I wanted. Ha! Everytime, I made a decision, I was met with resistance. Lots of fighting. Now the house is almost done and we both have had to get rid of items.

Monday hand-off

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Submitted by Jsmom on Mon, 01/04/2010 - 8:56am

This is supposed to be easy. No such luck. My SS11 comes down stairs this morning, grabs his coat and shoes and tries to leave. He wants to walk home. I said no can't you wait for SD (BM's new husband)? He said no he wants to leave now. What is so awful here that he needs to leave so fast. He can't wait 15 minutes for me to change or for his new SD to get over here. We live two subdivisions away from each other. I told him to call his dad at work and see if it is okay. Thinking he would say no, wait 15 minutes for SD. He told him it was okay to walk.

She's back and ticking me off!! Vent!!!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Mon, 12/28/2009 - 12:32pm

SD13 has come home with attitude this morning. I hate Mondays and the switch. I really hate that we have attitude on the week on and week off schedule. I just grounded her from Facebook. She came in the house without telling anyone she was home. She was told that three times and she would be off facebook for 24 hours. She flipped out on me. I called my husband twice to have him handle, he didn't call back, so I did. I never give punishment, but I have had it. This coming and going and not telling anyone you are home or leaving is nuts.

Husband mad!!!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sun, 12/13/2009 - 6:36pm

My DH came home tonight so mad at my Skids new SD. He went to drop them off after they were here for Hannukah tonight. We get them for an hour at sundown during Hannukah. Well he had taken Friday this week off since the kids have no school to take everyone to the new Avatar movie. We have to drive an hour away to see it in 3D. He is so excited to go. Me not so much, but if it makes everyone happy great. Well he told them in the car on the way home that he was taking them.

All you magazine

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sun, 12/13/2009 - 5:39pm

This months issue has a three page spread on blended families. Not a bad article and they even mention our site and the Forums. Worth getting just to see the suggestions on blending. Ironically I have tried the all - some more unsuccessful than others.

Therapy is awful!! LONG!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 12/10/2009 - 9:46am

I can't believe that it came down to us seeing a therapist. I spent an hour and half with the therapist last night, doing my session before we do a session together next week. I hate going over my history. It always sucks and you can see her mind turning, because she can't take notes fast enough. Obviously the questions about what therapy I have done and why, leads to long explanations. I have to explain my family and the abuse, I dealt with years ago and then my son's death and then my husband. It is emotionally and physically exhausting.

Starting Therapy

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 12/09/2009 - 2:02pm

Well today starts therapy for DH and I. I can't believe that it has come to this. We have only been married since June and already need therapy. I am not new to Therapy having done it with issues with my son's death and later my husband's death. I just can't believe I have to start it again. My DH went on Monday for his session. I go today. Then next week we go together. Has anyone else done this and it helped?

BM is driving me nuts!!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 11/25/2009 - 3:01pm

I need to preface this with she normally is not a huge problem, but this week is a pain in the ass, without ever even talking to DH. I am home recovering from Foot Surgery this week. I have had a horrible week. The day after surgery I had to put down my beloved Dog. Not even supposed to be up out of bed and had to take her to the vet. So my emotions were pretty bad.

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