I need to preface this with she normally is not a huge problem, but this week is a pain in the ass, without ever even talking to DH. I am home recovering from Foot Surgery this week. I have had a horrible week. The day after surgery I had to put down my beloved Dog. Not even supposed to be up out of bed and had to take her to the vet. So my emotions were pretty bad.

BM is getting married this week in Vegas. Since she sucks at planning for anything, this becomes our problem. She didn't have sufficient clothes for the kids so they had to call late at night to get a bathing suit. Same suit that SD has had to come and get from the house another time. She never makes sure that the kids have the proper things. So they take everything from our house. Then it never comes back and we have to replace it or force them to bring it back. She makes more money than my DH does. There is no child support since their is 50/50 custody. DH answers the phone at 10 at night and says it is fine to come get it. Then, the next morning SS comes walking in the house - no call - no announcement - to get a jacket. Freaks me out since I am not very mobile.

The jacket I might add that came from my son. We will never see it again. Turns out she is opening the garage door with her car. I flipped out on DH and he is now promising to change the code. 5 years later. I know have to stay on top of him to get it done this week before she comes home. He promises to talk to her again about the kids forgetting stuff and not caling before coming over. The kids have keys. If they really want their stuff they can use their key and call first. Not that much to ask. I can't believe this is a huge thing to learn.

There are two issue for me, plan better and provide for your kids. We went to Costa Rica this summer and I spent 3 months buying just the different shoes that we would need. I had lists everywhere. I am really close to actually having an actual communication with her. DH doesn't seem to be conveying it enough. He is frustrated with her lack of parenting and is always discussing that with her. So this stuff is on the back burner. I can't take it anymore. I have lived alone a long time. Had a big dog to protect me. She is gone and I don't have that movement in the house. So I freak out. I told him I don't feel safe here. I felt safer with just my son and me in my own house. He promises to change the code this weekend. I want to see the look on her face when she can't open the garage door.