House Keys?
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As DH and I settled into our new house this weekend with the kids SD8 and BS2 I started thinking about how I will handle giving keys to SD when she is older, I know its a few years away but I am already in a complete panick over BM having access to my house. She is and will always be a bitter, CRAZY, unbalanced person and I truly put nothing past her. It hasnt changed in the last 3 years, and I doubt it will be any different when SD is old enough to have a house key and code to the alarm.. SMs with older kids and crazy BM, how do you handle this??
For me it's easy.
And I know that I'm fortunate in my situation because honestly I have the same worry.
In our case, we own a business and I schedule my work around the kids schedule(s). I drop them off at school and pick them up. There is NO reason for any of them to have a key to our house.
It is what it is...
The key stays here...
Not because we are worried about BM, but more importantly, that SS would lose it and it fall in the wrong hands...
There is no reason for SS to actually have and keep a key with him when he's not here. If he needs something, I'm home, or (which we prefer) he calls and makes arrangements to come over when he's at this mothers. There is usually no problem with that for us.
We have a board with keys hanging on it, and we have a spare key on a hook just for him that he can attach to his belt loop on his pants- so he doesn't lose it. Whenever SS is here and he's going out to play with his friends, he just takes the key with him, clips it on his pants, and off he goes. When he comes home, he puts the key back. It doesn't leave the house in less necessary.
If you're concerned about BM, you could just make it routine that SD needs to call you to make sure someone can let her in?
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...