So, me and my husband talked things out last night. He tried to reassure me that I had nothing to fear but I just can't make him understand things. He is not the one with so many accusations made about him. my ss grandmother works at the school they both go to. Her and I used to get along really well. What did I do wrong? I told my husband about his daughter coming home infested with open and bleeding flea bites. I had to listen to my skids older sister tell me how bad the problem was. She told me the fleas were so very bad that a whole litter of new kittens died because of them. To enlighten you...when the skids first came to live with us-the house they had been living in was condemned after all the kids were removed from it. So I take this kind of stuff pretty seriously. Before we got them, they would come to visit and they smelled so bad that we would just buy them new cloths and put them right into the tub. One weekend it took me two hours to get all the mats out of her oldest daughters hair. Imagine my surprise when the lenght of her hair went from her shoulders all the way down to her butt! I know I keep talking about thier older sister. She is not my husbands bd but he has raised her from the day she was born so at first she came to live with us too. We didn't want any of them to sit in foster care. Well after all of this-she has turned on me too. Apperently she needs conseling because of how badly her brother and sister are treated in my home. The argument from all of them was that they could have picked up the fleas from anywhere. (Little did they know that there own grandaughter had already told me the truth) Being a Humane Officer for so many years-if I see one single flea in my home I am right on top of it and I informed her of this. But she wasn't happy with me so she started talking about how horrible and mentally abusive I was. She said this all to someone she was not aware was my friend.
I am just so sick of the manipulating. I am sick of having to put up with my ss attitude when he comes back from a weekend with his bm. I am sick of dealing with my sd s horrible hygiene when she gets back. I guess when they are with thier bm there are no chores,no bedtime and no wiping themselves after they go to the bathroom. My sd is ten years old-there is no reason why I should have to wash her disgusting underwear by hand because I won't put them in the wash with my own cloths. These are the things that have changed since regular visitation started. Theses are the things I seem to have no control over cause all I hear from her is that she doesn't have that problem when they are with her.