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jasperjax's picture

I can't win for tryin! Was stuck home alone with my ss all day yesterday.Last night when bm bought my sd back home-I hid up in my room while they all hung out in my kitchen. So freaking sick of this shit I could explode! Who's house is this anyway? Why Iam I always made to feel like I do not belong here? To make matters worse-school is closed today! Why can't I make my husband understand how this makes me feel? Without him backing me this will never stop. I hate to say it but everytime something like this happens-I start to resent the skids. I just want them gone and I know that is not fair but it is not fair that everyone keeps making me feel like this. I do everything for this family. This is my family and I don't need my bd running to her everytime she comes thru the door to give her a hug. There was even a point not long ago when my s-kids had my bd calling thier bm 'mommy' Help! I just want to scream!

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jasperjax's picture

This is what I have been dealing with since we moved here. She walks right into my house sometimes with all her kids(she has 7 all together)and they have a nice little family reunion right in my kitchen!

Jsmom's picture

She should not enter the house. Mine did this a couple times, now there is no way in hell. You need to talk to your husband and make this stop immediately. How dare she????? I am floored that this happens at all. Mine had the garage door opener code in her car for a year after I moved in and I didn't know. They were divorced for 4 years at this point. Then one day the SK flew in the house while I was home recovering from surgery. I went nuts, when he told me mom just opened it for him. I had no clue....

Let me tell you DH was on the ladder that next day changing the code. Get her out of your house...

skylarksms's picture

If BM entered my house, she would be staring down the barrel of a gun - even if it was just SS's pellet gun.

Like Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

jasperjax's picture

Thankyou everyone! I was starting to feel like maybe I was seeing things wrong and the one acting immature!

jasperjax's picture

Actually our home is in his parents name but his name is on the loan account. Not mine. Although we have been together for nearly 8 yrs we have only been married a few months.

Willow2010's picture

You need to sit down and tell DH how wrong this is. Would he be ok if one of your ex's barged into your home? No. he would not like it at all!! There is NO reason for her to come in your home. How much more disrespectful can your DH get?!

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

Wow you make this sound awful as if you are locked up, looking out of a watchtower!

WHY is he letting his ex-wife do this? I certainly would not let him "touch me", although you should not have to ask him to set boundaries actually as he should feel like this is YOUR home, not his ex-wife's!

I'm so, so sorry. That has to hurt.

Maybe you could hit the main breaker off in the main fuse box on them?

jasperjax's picture

That is exactly what I have become-a doormat! But I have let myself become that. And I do feel like I am oustide begging to come in.I take care of these kids that I love very much.bm only has them every other weekend and this just started last year. When they first came to live with us five years ago-she didn't call them and rarely came to see them. I put all thier broken pieces back together again. They are great kids and both very smart. This is all bm,thier bs and thier bgm who is causing this shit. What they don't seem to realize is that if I hadn't stepped up to the plate five years ago...all of her kids would be in foster care.