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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 04/09/2019 - 2:50pm

So I have been figuring there's a whole bunch of stuff that DS18 (soon to graduate from HS) doesn't tell me. Been feeling down about how little I know my kid anymore and was really happy about a roadtrip we had to take where we had some one-on-one time.

Ended up talking to a couple of parents of his friends the past few days and I have it better than I think. I congratulated one of the parents on the summer internship her kid got and she didn't know (and it was old news to me). Seems that most of the other parents know vastly less about their kids than I know about mine.

We were getting along better and then I had to ruin it

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 04/08/2019 - 5:45pm

The title is almost a direct quote from DH this weekend. Why? Because I didn't fart glitter and poop rainbows continually for the skids.

We were getting along because for the past couple weeks I have been diligent about responding in a positive-non-commital manner.

My mistake was that, yes, I thought we were getting along and thought I could say something that was not 100% positive about a skid. That was taken badly, and taken much further than I meant it.

When a kid turns 18, does their status in the household change?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 04/04/2019 - 9:35pm

So I got told this tonight by DH: OSS turns 18 soon and then we don't have any say over what he does.

Um, that's not my viewpoint. If a person is a child, even a step child, of mine, is living under my roof, and I am supporting that persons life, then I still have governance over that person. DS is 18 already, is not adulting yet, and I have a say on what happens in my house and what he does.

I called a therapist

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 03/28/2019 - 5:03pm

I had been putting it off, but I need somebody to talk to IRL. I hate that I'm going in again with husband problems but I felt a bit better when I realized it's been almost fifteen years since I last went (the last time was with XH and due to an injury he sustained that he was not recovering from and was taking out his anger on me).

No appointment yet as they are not sure who I will see, but I made the call.

 

Took years to realize it's not a step family issue

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/27/2019 - 12:14pm

It's not the skids, it's probably not BM, but I think it is DH.

All the issues would probably be there if DH and I were a "first family" since I think he has Aspergers. After reading that article about how neurotypical (NT) wives of AS husbands lose twice (see my previous PAS post), I have been doing some reading up on AS.

He's not a rocking, no eye contact, non-verbal autistic person, he can put on a face and act as is appropriate in social situations and most people may not guess (unless they compare OSS and DHs behavior as OSS is even more typical AS but not diagnosed).

How Disney works

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 03/18/2019 - 6:51pm

If you've been to Disney as a tourist, you've seen the park. Do any of you know what else happens to make it all work? I have a cousin who used to work for Disney and I happened to read an article on Disney World.

Did you know that Disney World is built on a swamp and there's a whole underground level beneath the park to shore it up and handle all the cleaning, maintenance, and management of the parks? That's how characters show up magically, that they have an underground level where they can go quickly from place to place?

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