This frustrates DH to no end: if I am around the dog looks at me and waits for me to say okay if DH gives the dog a command or offers anything (unless someone has food, the dog will do anything for whoever has food). Seriously, DH can be offering to go out to play catch and the dog turns to look at me to see if it's okay to go and won't go until I tell him he can go.

A thought sprang into my head today. From a logical, financial and emotional standpoint for me it seems to be a valid idea. 

When DH and I were first married I paid off his credit card debts left from his divorce and I helped fund his fight with BM over the schools the skids go to. If it hadn’t been for my income he would not have paid off the cards and would have gone into debt on lawyers for the school stuff. 

Silly me believed it would come around. Like with a few changes I desired on the house (DHs house he bought with BM). It hasn’t come around. 

Tonight we (adults and kids) talked about visiting relatives. I didn’t realize it until now but DH has never taken the skids to visit one of his sisters who lives a good plane ride away. His sister has been in that location for over a decade. (And hasn’t take them to visit the others either.)

When we were first married DH, privately to me, bad-mouthed BM not taking the skids to visit her mother and her mother had been living in that location for a decade. 

OSS showed up this week for the first time in weeks. And things are almost back to day one. This is a warning to those who have awesome (TM) significant others who “are trying” (TM) and “just need a little help” (TM) and are sure it will influence the BMs house, too. I’ve been married to DH for over seven years. Don’t bother.

OSS are very little at dinner even though DH cooked a very “safe” one. OSS went out to get fast food about an hour later. Eating habits back to original.