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Hogger's picture

Submitted by Hogger on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:17pm

My SS (10) wants to play football. His Dad is supporting this and contacted the local football organization and got all the info. So Dad contacted BM....she is refusing to pay her share, which is only $150 (30%) for 6 months of playing! Dad even offered to pay it up front and just deduct $25 each month for 6 months from his support to make it easier on her. She still refuses. My SS is obese and needs the exercise and it's something he actually wants to do!! So frustrating.... There are so many benefits to playing on a team and she can't see past the end of her own nose.
I wish we could force her... but I don't think we can.

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Ommy's picture

Submitted by Ommy on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:20pm

could you just bite the bullet? I know it would suck but speaking from experience I absolutely loved my club volley ball team. I know that it is a lot of money but it is so worth it.

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Submitted by suspicious on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:21pm

Maybe suggest getting him a physical to see if he's healthy enough to play. I would ask her if she is worried about something. If he is obese, she could be worried about dehydration, heart attack, peer teasing. Maybe ss doesn't want to play and she is covering for him so he doesn't disappoint your dh.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:24pm

I would ask her if she is worried about something. If he is obese, she could be worried about dehydration, heart attack, peer teasing. Maybe ss doesn't want to play and she is covering for him so he doesn't disappoint your dh.

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Here is a thought...maybe...just maybe...she is greedy!

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Submitted by mlmt1128 on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:37pm

Does she not want him to ply, or does she not want to pay for it? Big difference there. If she doesn't have the money, pay for it yourselves. It will be good for him. My ss is overweight too. I would LOVE for him to want to do something like that.

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Submitted by Hogger on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:50pm

I think she's ok with him playing just not paying for it. I am sure we will end up paying for it as we are concerned with his weight.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 12:49pm

I will only say this once... I posted that before you said you were having fun by starting arguments here. I refuse to feed the troll here and I hope the rest of the stalkers do the same.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 1:41pm

I signed my son up for football it was my choice I wanted him to play his dad didn't want the hassle of practice and expense I paid for it I took him to every practice his dad took him to 1 away game I handled all of it and didn't mind since I made the choice to put him in it. I'll be doing it again this year I can't really afford it but he loved it and needs the exercise if his dad won't help I'll figure it out. When you make a choice sometimes your the only one who has to pay.

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Submitted by Hogger on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 3:02pm

We are going to make sure he really wants to play and understands it's a lot of practices not just games...it's not the money it's the principle. He needs the exercise and BM won't even accept a $25 a month reduction in support for her share. I swear it's not that she can't afford it, she won't because Dad asked. Pure stubborness. On a side not she is a smoker, I don't have a probelm with people who choose to smoke but at the expense of your child...if she would cut back on smokes the $25 could be found. Whatever I guess though...eh? He needs it, we'll provide it.

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Submitted by Newstep on Wed, 02/01/2012 - 5:01pm

I hear you on that. BM never has two nickels for anything for SD I mean anything. If SD has anything at BM's it's because BM "borrowed" it from someone never to return it. Conned it from someone, or just plain got it free somewhere. Yet she drinks and she smokes 2 packs a day!! She cried to SO last week that she had no money and no gas to take SD to school so could he please take her to school. This woman has no job and gets more CS every month than some people earn working full time. He told her to figure it out on her own!! She was pissed calling him every name in the book and that he was a worthless father. Sorry to go off on a vent but this crap irritates me. They have money for all of their wants but not for the kids needs.