So My husband goes to pick up his kids on Christmas day and she demands to know who's watching the kids while he is at work next week. He tells her he doesn't know (He knows, he just knows she'll want to argue about it since it will be my bs14 and I). She proceeds to remind him that she doesn't want my bs14 or I to watch thier kids, he doesn't say anything in regards to that but goes on to say (which is suprising for him, he hardly ever stands up to her) that since all she wants to do is argue that he will not communicate via phone, to just send an email or text if she has questions for him. She reminds him that she doesn't want to "deal" with me answering the phone when she calls to speak to the kids. He tells her that he will hand the phone to the kids when she calls to speak with them or I will answer and give the phone to kids...do you think this happened?...Nope!

All weekend she keeps calling demanding to speak with him to find out whos watching the kids. When she speaks to the kids she requests the kids to ask thier father whos watching them. So of course he communicates back to her via kids, instead of text or email like he originally requested, and tells them to tell her he doesn't know yet.

So Sunday at 5pm comes and he finally decides he will text his ex and let her know that my bs14 will be watching thier kids. Let the games begin!

Monday at 8am she calls our home phone, I've left for work and he's still there getting ready for work, he doesn't answer. She calls the home phone again at 815am, this time leaving a message demanding to talk to the kids. He text'd her telling her that the kids are not awake yet, but will leave a note for my son to have them call when they get up and to please quit calling the home phone. He heads off to work. She proceeds to call the home phone, his cell phone and work phone 6 more times before 916am! This time demanding to speak with my husband. My son awakens to the police knocking at our door at 921am! The police inform my son that the ex called informing them that young children were left at home unattended! WTF! So my son calls my husband to talk to the police. Basically the police said that it was fine for my son to watch the skids and no police report would be made. Meantime the skids are hiding because they said that thier mother told them that if she had to call the police on us that they would go to a foster home until she could come pick them up, and they were affraid to go to a foster home! At this point I'm furious that MY son has been put in the middle!

In the past, when the ex hasn't gotten her way, she has showed up at our house yelling and screaming, barged into my MIL/FIL house to argue, tried to open my husbands truck door to attack him and has threatened to call children services. So you can just imagine what I'm worrying about while I'm at work that my son may have to endure next since her police scheme didn't work!

...all the while she continues to call the home phone, work phone cell phone, etc leaving nasty messages like "you have no business watching my kids after what you've done to them" (um he's done nothing pyscho!)and calling my husband a "big fat lier" (what are we in 1st grade?!)She called a total of 12 times within 8 hrs.

I tried to have the police depart in which she works issue her a warning at her place of employment since all her calls were made from her work phone but they said that I would have to make a police report in the twp in which I live, and "they would go from there". My husband was all willing for me to make a police report after she called the police, but now that he has cooled off, he has burried his head in the sand once again and acts like it wouldn't be worth it. Even tho he has gotten better about sticking up for my kids and I (ecspecially this xmas with his parents getting in the middle) he still says "it doesn't matter what I say/do, it won't change anything" when I confront him about certain topics. He even transfers his calls from the ex to my cell phone because he doesn't want to deal with her and she calls less when its me that answers the phone. Why couldn't my husband just tell her from the beginning who was watching the kids? Why does he act like he's too affraid to say anything? Why can't he tell her to knock it off? Why can't he follow through when he does set boundaries and make her face some consequences? I want to make a police report because I am sick of my son and I being the target of her anger but I know this will just be another argument between my husband and I.

His sister is watching his kids tomorrow and as for the rest of the week, I guess I will take the week off and watch the skids. Theres no way I'm lettn my son go through this again!