DH and I have not fully gotten along since ss16 moved in full time. The kids have ways driven a wedge when they are here and 90% of the time I grin and bear till I can't anymore.... I can't do it anymore....

1st: ss16 is a total slob, he has 2 rooms in our house and both of them are filthy, and he has 50% of my dishes on the dirty.... Finally for the last 2 weeks I hVe broken down and told DH I cannot be someones maid, DH is out of work so I've been paying for everything, not exactly thrilled about another set of bills but I suck it up.....

I have complained to DH almost everyday about constantly picking up after his children, working all day, cooking for him to not eat then ambush our food when everyone is sleeping DH tells me he will tale care of it and NEVER does.... I cannot take it anymore.... Now if I ask ss16 to do it he semi will and if I tell DH its not even half done.... He flips out on me threatens to leave since I am " to hard on his kids " explodes at me and does nothing but fight with me.... I really think he is just to lazy to make his kids do anything, and to lazy to do it himself so he would rather scream at me and let it sit there.... I am not picking this up.... I will not do laundry dishes or anything else.... And u know what..... When his kids need something and won't take care of it he screams at me again and ignores me With holds all affection and fights with me in front of them.... Where can I fucking win!!'n