It's me or SD
I'm new here, and using my tablet, so please forgive spelling errors and newbie mistakes.
I'm really not sure how to start. I've been lurking here for almost a year. Exactly how long SO has had custody of SD13. I guess I'll start from the beginning.
I've been with my SO and his 3 kids (SD18, SS15, and SD13) for 4 years. After about 6 months I realized I'm with a disney friggin dad, should have left then. SD18 and SS15 are pretty good kids. It took awhile to get SO on the right path parenting them, but it happened. SD13 was out of the picture for about 2 years because BM2 didn't like me. Never met me, didn't speak to me or know about me, just hated that SO had moved on. There's a whole story behind BM2 and the beginning but I won't even bother becaus3 it's so pathetic and childish. She refused to let SD13 around me and even stopped visitation with SO (only in her home, on her time) after finding out i was pregnant. I had our DS1 and she refused to even let him meet SD13 until he was almost 1, he will be 2 soon. April last year she choked SD13 and drug her by her hair because she wanted to see her dad. She then committed SD13 tothe psych ward because she was out of control . Ha! SO got emergency custody, BM2 was a cunt blah blah blah.
I realized after a few months that he was being disney dad with her so she wouldn't want to go back to her mom's. I tried to put a stop to it. SD13 got worse. Her birthday came and my sister and I put everything together, of course BM2 decides to come. I got a forced thank you, no thanks. Science fair came, SD13 told me she's never gotten more than a C and she's always teased because she chooses easy projects and BM2 won't help/buy supplies. I went above and wayyyyy beyond. She got 99%, would have been 100 but BM2 "stepped up"to take her to the library and neither of them can spell. Not a single thank you.
I started a new job and found out I'm pregnant within the same month, SD13 got even worse. She is so rude, disrespectful, lazy, treats me as her personal servant etc so I disengaged. Now she's failing, her attitude is worse, she's blaming me at BM2's house and school, she treat my son like a dog, won't shower or brush her teeth, there is moldy cheese in her bedroom and now we are getting roaches. I'm losing it. I can't stand this girl and the older skids are gettig away with everything because she does. I told my SO I'm not goig to live with her if shit doesn't change fast. He said he isn't letting her run me and our 2 children together out like she did my sister. I won't give him a choice because that's his kid and his responsibility. I'm offering 50/50 unless the house is disgusting and she continues her behavior towards my son. Then it will have to be weekends when SD13 is with her mom.
I'm sorrythis is all over the place, this isn't even the half of it. I'm just tired. This pregnancy has been rough and SD13 is not helping. She's turning me into the evil step monster. I haven't cooked for her, cleaned up after her or helped her with homework in months. She's living off of cereal, wearing dirty clothes (that i paid for) and failing. I feel bad because i know her mom can't help, she's a dumbass twat, her dad is working weird shifts, now she has no one.
i just want some damn respect! And a clean house....
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So sorry you are going
So sorry you are going through this. I have no advice, unfortunately, but at leat let me leave you a hug.
I appreciate the hug and I'm
I appreciate the hug and I'm not sure if I'm even looking for advice. I just needed to bitch without someone telling me to keep trying.
Forgot to metion the reason I
Forgot to metion the reason I chose to disengage. We had to get the cops to remove SD13 from BM2s home. She was upset that Disney dad grounded her. After an hour, making me late for work, she got in the car. Called me a whore, worthless, said I haven't worked in years, a bad mom, an alcoholic and several other things. I said quite a few things back, which was wrong. Then I laughed and asked if she realized she just explained BM2 to a T.
Just made that extremely
Just made that extremely clear! So clear he came home, did the dishes, made breakfast and went to bed at 9am so he can be up before she gets home at 4:30. Even on y dats off he knows I will not be alone with her. She's started telling people I refuse to let her use the bathroom and I'm always yelling.
He was mentioned almost as
He was mentioned almost as muh as he was involved. That was my fault. Before things got to this he was working 2nd shift and I was a SAHM so I offered to help more. BM2 was off with her boyfriend of the week so she was no help, unless the courts made her. He's stepping up now but she's still blaming me because I forced SO and BM2 to not only be active parents but to work together. So it's my fault she's always grounded now.
Thank you! That's why I
Thank you! That's why I joined, these women and men have been through and seen it all. I've been through a lot of blogs and haven't found any stories similar so I finally joined. Only took a few months to actually post lol.
I can relate. My
I can relate. My stepdaughter is 15 and lives here full time. She told people I wouldn't let her eat lunch or breakfast and that I locked her in her room in the dark (age 13 ...hello the lock is on the inside of the door as is the light switch DUH). Oh, I also supposedly verbally abused her when she was 13. I was also pregnant at the time. The jealousy and vindictiveness/spite was out of control. I almost divorced my husband.
She's back at it again. She's in WEEKLY therapy with mood stabilizers and antidepressants and still just shitty personality.
She's started back telling the therapist that I "treat her like a dog" and she told me just last night that the therapist said I am awful and should treat her like a human being and she deserves to be respected.
Two years, eleven months, and fifteen days to freedom. She says she's going to live here after high school; I think not.
Just sharing so you see you're not alone!
That makes me feel better!
That makes me feel better! Not that I'm enjoying your misery lol. In my state we are required to care for the child/pay child support until they either graduate high school or drop out. She's 13 in 6th grade. She's most likely repeating 6th grade. That means she will be in her early 20s IF she graduates. I'm honestly hoping she will but I don't see it happening. I already told SO that once she's 18 she's working part time and if she drops out she will be moving out quick . I know BM2 won't take her without the child support.