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HeatherM's picture

So...my inlaws came for the long weekend as it was our daughters 2nd birthday yesterday. We had a 'talk' with SS8 prior to their arrival stating that we expected him to follow the rules while his grandparents were here (because he normally ignores them), and that if he didn't he would pay for the consequences after his grandparents leave... it didn't turn out too bad besides his usual "I've now turned into a 2 year old because my grandparents are here" thing... but whatever... but I need to vent about a few things..because folks..this is the only safe place to do so.
-1- It was my daugthers 2nd Birthday. SS8 did everything he could to ensure she didn't get the attention...it was pathetic...
-2- I had a conversation with DH about SS8's weight..because he was 'gorging' while inlaws were here... I'm talking eating more than a grown man..and he's already 20 pounds overweight. DH says "There is nothing I can do about it, and BM is not concerned. What do you want us to do get him to start jogging?"... pullleeezzzee... how extreme...how about we start with not letting him consume 5000 calories a day... and how about we encourage him to get on his bike for starters? Frig.. Then DH says.."I need to spend less time with BD2 then in order to ensure he's exercising"... whatever.. it's so insane I didn't even have an answer.
-3- This 95 pound kid is jumping all over his old grandfather..punching him... asking him to wrestle..and well Grandpa never says no..because SS is a prince afterall...but he's just exhausted!
-4- We all sit down to watch movies, and SS lays on the couch... no one says anything to him..so Grandma and myself sit on the floor...! Something wrong with that! When I was a kid I'd be asked to move!

I could go on... just had to get this off my freeken chest because I was so annoyed... couldn't wait to come to work this morning just to get away from it all!

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HeatherM's picture

Oh I would have....but I risked starting a fight with DH and FIL. They think he's entitled to do so... so what am I supposed to do.

Even my MIL acted as though she didn't mind... because she too thinks SS8 is entitled to do so... I guess that is they way DH was raised. It still bothered me to no end..but I wasn't going to cause a scene...

StepX2's picture

When I was growing up I wouldn't even have to be asked to move...it was just automatic that if an adult needed a seat, you got up to allow the adult to sit. It was all part of the 'respect your elders concept'.

ScornedSM's picture

Laid himself out on the sofa with adult company?!

Are you kidding me, what is this world coming to! I have one of my own that is grown but as a child, he would have been rolled off of the sofa and scolded in front of my entire family.

Too bad the stepkid here has not had the same upbringing and is chained to two infantile parents...

example: stepkid6 is told to GO TO BED and turns around-OMG-and looks at us and says, "Well, aren't YOU going to bed too?" Ummm. NO kiddo, you are not an adult yet pops will run in the bedroom and "act" like we are sleeping.

That stopped as my fuse blew and I quote verbatum, "I am NOT 6 years old and ready to go to bed at 8pm."

The End. (of that.)

HeatherM's picture

I didn't ask him to move because it would have started a fight. DH would have thought I was being 'mean' and MIL/FIL would have thought I was picking on him... so I left it alone... had MIL/FIL not been there, I would definetly had said something.

ScornedSM's picture

So, you were the only adult present in this particular scenario that actually viewed this as being rude? Kudos.

I can't even invision my grandparents sitting on the floor while I sprawled out on the sofa. :O

HeatherM's picture

Yes I was actually... I so don't get it either! And same goes Scorned... the thought of having my grandmother/Mother on the floor while I relax on the sofa/chair is so alien to me... that would NEVER happen!

Gia's picture

This sickens me:

1) He doesn't care about his son's weight? whatever, let him have an obese son. He even said that he would pay less attention to DD2, then tell him that you rather have him be super fat, than have your daughter lack her father's attention. which is by itself ridiculous but whatever, leave it at that.

2) You should have made him move, regardless of supportive parent/grandparents being around. If they get mad, whatever, they have a f**ing problem, seriously....

3) :sick: