Well thankfully the holidays are over..I'm even excited about being back at work actually. Christmas was great as it always is... I love Christmas...but every single year SS 8 creates some sort of Drama. I thought we'd get off free this year as Christmas day came and went without a hitch... he went to his mothers on Boxing Day and then he came to our house for the next week... ah... it was the next week... and I'm officially disengaging. My DH is actually on my side. All this kid does is eat and watch tv. He comes out in the morning eats, and then goes and watches tv, comes out for lunch then watches tv until dinner and so on and so forth. I can't hack it. I was off with the kids throughout the holidays and was trying to find something for this child to do.. I had him shovel the walk and play with his sister...but seriously..when it was just me home (not DH) he stays in his room... as SOON as DH comes home he comes out and is Mr.Chatty... so I called him on it... "Why is it you spend all day in your room? I've asked you to go for walks with us, Play outside, etc..and you refuse..you don't even talk to us...just come out to eat until your Dad gets home..and then you come out?"... well it's a long story but he eventually told his father that he wished it was just him and his Dad... I have been in this fricken kids life for 7 years... ! It's so pathetic... I have made so many sacrifices for this spawn... I've tried to help him with anything I could..I'm the one who is always available to take him places or do things for him..even simple things like take the day off when he's sick because his parents are too busy... and this is what I get? Anyways..I already knew this is what he'd say...but still... so, I didn't make him dinner or lunch (left to DH)..and I didn't even eat with them at the table..as he always leers at me.. DH has had enough...told him that this is our family, and if he didn't like it he has decisions to make... (there is way more to this story over the holidays...but I'm not a great blogger..and tend to ramble). After that SS treated me like nothing happened...hugs and all of that... and I'm tired of it. He's a compulsive liar, compulsive eater, and just a sociopath in my opinion...and going forward I told my DH that one of my resolutions was to stop doing things for his kid, concentrating on myself and my own children... he seemed fine with that..so we'll see.