How would you approach this??? Am I being unreasonable? Want to take back SS12 room....
Please help me on this one.
DH moved into my home when we got together....I have a 5 bedroom home. Master, BD, BS, office and extra room that was turned into SS 12 and SS15 room for the 4 days a month they come over.
SS 15 no longer talks to DH and there has been no communication with him since Oct. The skids room has twin beds.
After DH had his stem cell transplant he was put on high dose steroids.....he has gained A LOT of weight and shores very bad and also has bladder issues and gets up several times at night. I am a very light sleeper and have not slept with him in the master room since OCTof 2009.....so for 17 months I have slept on the couch every night.
My back has really been bothering me a lot lately and I'm sick to death of sleeping on the couch and ready to take over skid room and get a queen mattress and make it my room.
I don't think it is right skid 12 has his own room for 4 days a month, while I sleep on the couch....and NO I'm not sleeping in his room with his twin bed and on the mattress his nasty body has been on....
And I need my office so I can't convert that into a bedroom either.
How should I approach this with DH???
I'm beginning to get resentful when I think this is MY home and I've been a couch for a year and half and skid has his own room for 4 days a month!!!
I need to have a space of my own at night.
Any suggestions are appreciated
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YOu have every right to take
YOu have every right to take back that room. IT would be totally ridiculous for your husband to think otherwise. It's not like you're turning it into a gym or anything. Because of his health issues you are forced to leave your room. Tell him what you told us.
Maybe you could turn the
Maybe you could turn the "guest" room in to DHs man cave with a bed. A trundle day-bed as part of the cave can address where the Skids will sleep 4nights per month. DH can sleep in the master BR when the Skids are there.
Even I, who detests the SpermIdiot and SpermClan beyond rationality, would not make a big deal over the kids not having their own room during visitation. I did fry the SpermIdiots ass in court for making the Skid sleep on the floor during visitation while the non joint spawn of his womb-donor-of-the month got beds.... but I did not force a room of his own for the Skid.
Our son's room (my SS-18) will be a second guest room when he leaves for the AF in a few weeks. When he is home it will be his room but the rest of the time it is a guest room. We will put all of his personal crap in the attic and set it up as a pleasant guest room.
Good luck.
Hi Stepaside, I am formerly
Hi Stepaside,
I am formerly Tanner5121...my DH has leukemia and 3 out of 4 kids have nothing to do with us....When my DH couldnt work because of leukemia and spending 73 days in a row in hospital for chemo, radiation and stem cell transplant the 3 kids figured the money train had rolled out, so they had no use for DH.
When I was growing up I was
When I was growing up I was with my dad for a comparable amount of time, probably 50 days a year. When he was with my stepmother I had my own bedroom in their house, and it was lovely. Then, when I was 12 he separated from my stepmother, and needed to rent out my room to make ends meet. That meant I got the couch when I stayed over.
I never once resented him for it - things are the way they are and I had no trouble sleeping on the couch. He felt bad about it, but I told him that it was silly for the room to sit unused anyway and that I didn't mind.
I find it absurd that you sleep on the couch when there is a perfectly good room being used 4 days a month by a 12 year old! It's not that you don't want him to feel welcome in your home, and he should be old enough to understand that.
Your the adult; you get the
Your the adult; you get the room. Get an inflatable mattress & give he a choice. He can sleep in the living room OR with BS or DH.