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Pool incident and SS hates me

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Submitted by Hastings on Fri, 06/04/2021 - 9:33pm

Or that's what DH said.

Tonight, DH and SS10 get back from our neighborhood pool and DH tells me there was an incident yesterday (insists he told me yesterday but I would've remembered this one).

Apparently a group of kids were playing, throwing a football to kids as they came down the slide. One kid was a young girl with Downs Syndrome. Apparently, SS hit her hard in the Face -- twice. The girl's mom snapped at SS. DH said he nearly came unglued and wanted to rip the mom a new one for yelling at his kid (who started crying).

When your SO gripes about his kid

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Submitted by Hastings on Fri, 05/21/2021 - 10:07am

DH projects a lot. He's hyper-sensitive about SS10 in a lot of ways. Not unusual. But he also, when upset, will blame me for things, accuse me of not liking SS, etc.

Well, I think a lot of that is projection and guilt.

More and more lately, DH gripes about SS. He's always done it some. DH isn't a "kid person" and, if he had to do it over, would have stayed child-free. I like and understand kids more than he does, but I'm not a big kid fan myself. A little goes a long way.

DH got snubbed

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Submitted by Hastings on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 12:23pm

So this is SS10's week with Disney BM. He had a baseball game last night and DH went. I usually go but did not because of work and timing. Well, after the game, DH was in a fury because SS completely snubbed him afterwards.

DH has definite anger-management issues and he's also hyper-sensitive to rejection. A snub like that would sting anyone but for him it was like a third-degree burn.

Here’s a puppy!

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Submitted by Hastings on Thu, 04/29/2021 - 12:14pm

So, we just moved into a great new home. Awesome yard for SS10 to play in and the previous owners left behind their trampoline (a very nice one). SS got a lot of enjoyment out of it when he was with us last week.

One of my sisters also got a new puppy last week, which SS heard about.

So guess whose mom got him a new dog this week? Keep in mind he already has two dogs and two cats at her house.

DH and I just rolled our eyes at the news. Her house, her rules - and her mess. I love animals but that sounds like a LOT to me. Two is plenty for us.

School and BM drama goes on

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Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 03/31/2021 - 10:15pm

SS10 is with BM this week and, big shocker, DH got texts from his gifted & talented program teacher saying SS wasn't logged on to participate. Same thing that's been happening for weeks. (Hopefully he's actually "attending" his regular classes now because he also wasn't logging in for English/social studies.) Again, DH forwarded to BM. She eventually replied he was logged on now. Told DH she didn't think it was a big deal since he was doing some sort of math games.

It’s not the same thing!

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Submitted by Hastings on Tue, 03/30/2021 - 10:13am

One of the things that bothers me about SS10 (really more DH) is food and drink. SS would take good or drink up to his room and then leave the container or cup or whatever there instead of returning it when through. I try to keep my mouth shut on most things but this was one I felt the need to speak up. I don't mind stuff in his room IF he's responsible. He's demonstrated he's not. If he spills something, he leaves it. He had never brought something back to the kitchen unless told to. I have a fear of that leading to bugs or to the dogs getting something that could make them sick.

Coddling and life lessons

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Submitted by Hastings on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:58pm

I wrote earlier this week about SS10 not getting on to participate in virtual class. He's doing the work. But instead of class he was logging on for role call and then goofing off. Apparently DH realized this was a problem last week and checked on him a few times, catching him on his iPad and (a couple of times) *ahem* enjoying himself. A stern talking-to followed.

Virtual school drama

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Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 03/17/2021 - 10:51am

So, SS10 is with BM this week. DH is out of town for work and I'm staying with family (we're in the process of moving). Long story. Anyway, SS has done virtual school this year.

Today, DH and BM are told SS has not logged in to participate in class all week so they've locked him out of his account. He's been doing his assignments (mostly A and one B )but hasn't been there for class.

Lovely.

It’s a kid week

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Submitted by Hastings on Thu, 02/11/2021 - 11:08am

We're mid-way through a kid week and, as usual, I find myself getting annoyed with SS10 and DH.

1) DH talked to SS about the swishing beverages around in his mouth thing and SS agreed to stop. He still does it. It's a habit and I get that he'll have slip-ups, but while it was better for a couple of days, it's getting worse again and DH ignores it. He's also added smacking when eating.

I take it back!

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Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 01/27/2021 - 1:13pm

After the yay moment this morning -- ugh!

Last night DH made one of his chili recipes. When we went over the week's meal plan, we decided on it and having it for two dinners. Great.

Today, SS comes down for lunch. I was in the next room so didn't hear their discussion but DH asked if it was ok to microwave one of our dish sets. I said no. He decided to use the others. SS had tomato soup yesterday and there was some left over so I figured that was what he was having.

Nope.

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