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Father's day....day of profound disappointment and a question

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Submitted by halo1998 on Mon, 06/17/2024 - 8:12am

SMH....depsite me telling SD a few weeks ago to stop throwing her father over for Beaver, SD still throws DH out with the bath water to see Beaver.  Now on Thursday SD sent DH a message..no hi how are you...but just the beauty school wants their down payment so that i can register.  (mmmm.....really).  That is the only message DH gets from SD..meanwhile...SD facetimes with the old Beaver 5 and 6 times A DAY.

Tale of stinky laundry.....ooff....and I mean STINKY

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Submitted by halo1998 on Tue, 06/04/2024 - 8:25am

Ah..SD....she seems to following in her mother's footsteps....

SD's room at our house looked like a nuclear bomb had been detonated in it.  Generally, I just close the door at this point..and try not to be wigged out about the state of the room.   Now, I have told everyone leave your crap all over the common areas and I will throw it away if not picked up after I asked you too.  BTDT...and several chitlins have lost their stuff over the years. The smart ones learn to pick up their crap, DH included.  I do not like clutter or mess....

And Beaver has left the building aka Sd graduated today

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Submitted by halo1998 on Sat, 05/25/2024 - 1:54pm

Yes folks after 17 years we are Beaver freeeeeeeeee.  The crotch goblin extortion is now ended.  I need a t-shirt that says. I survived Beaver and the cg extortion.  DH was a ball of anxiety and annoyance but we made it through the ceremony.   I don't take his shiznit personally now.  I wore a new dress and my louboutins and looked amazing I must say.   Next up grad party tomorrow and SD will start cosmology in September.  
 

DH and I are now empty nesters.  Woohoo 

FINALLY.....SD TURNED 18 TODAY

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Submitted by halo1998 on Thu, 05/09/2024 - 6:38am

DH's crotch goblin extortion is almost done....16 days are left of child support since SD will graduate on May 25th.  After 17 years (good lord that is a long time) of dealing with Beaver and the never ending custody battles...WE ARE DONE....WE ARE DONE....SD turned 18 today.

Holy Shiznit...I never thought this day would get here.  It has been a loooonnnggg hard sloggg....but here we are.

OH HAPPY DAY....OH HAPPY DAY.......

Update on Me... :)

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Submitted by halo1998 on Sat, 04/27/2024 - 4:33pm

Well lets see..I took a break from pretty much everything after hitting rock bottom about 5 months ago.  Diagnosis...severe burnout.  Burnout from work, step life and the trama DH unleashed on me. 

Got back to intense therapy...and I'm much better.  Creating boundaries in home and work...and not taking sh$t from DH.  

So everyone should I act like how H thinks I act?

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Submitted by halo1998 on Tue, 02/20/2024 - 12:37pm

Sigh..just when I though things were going better.

H...has ADHD..I try my very best to give him passes on things due to the ADHD.  

People of Steptalk I have tried and tried and tried over the last 3 years to change myself, to do better, to manage the triggers after H's cheating.  It ain't easy let me tell you...part of me always thinks the cheating was my fault. H thought I didn't pay enough attention to him.  

OH for heaven's sake..why lie about this...NSR ...a spouse rant

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Submitted by halo1998 on Thu, 01/25/2024 - 9:38am

My AH (ahole husband)..still cannot grasp the concept of not lying.  Seriously, why is this so freaking hard...

After two years of putting this sh*tshow of a marriage back together...going to weekly counseling to help fix my self esteem, work on my people pleasing and start setting some freaking boundries...going to couples counseling to work on our communciation and issues..this dumb@ss still thinks its ok to lie about shit..."to protect my feelings"  

PROTECT MY FEELINGS MY @SS.  ITS TO PROTECT YOURSELF YOU JERK.

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