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Well where do i begin, i have been with my partner for 5 years , i love her very much,her kids not so much.I know this sounds aweful but i could go the rest of my life with out seeing them and i would be just peachy.When i met her she had 2 boys,the oldest was 8 ,and the youngest 4,both by different dads,the 8 year olds dad had full custody which means we would only get him every other weekend ,which was hell i would dread it so bad because i new it would be chaos and she would not discipline him and coddle him and buy him whatever he wanted with her money then expect me to make up her share of the bills and put food on the table after she blew her money on him.the 4 year old she rarely buys him anything because he doesnt really ask for anything,except for being a 4 year old with the whining and acting 2 at times he is fairly normal ,and over the years has outgrown that and is less annoying,but still annoying.the 4 year old is with us equal time ,usually we have him a week ,then his dad has him a week.from the beggining i new the 8 year old was trouble,he was destructive,killed all my fish by squeezing them,destroyed the house broke all his bikes , his skateboards ,then when we ask him what happened he says " i dont know ,it just fell apart ,i need a more expensive one ,it broke because it was cheap"what a little darling, :sick: If i had done half the things this kid has done or said i would not be alive today because my father would have killed me,but yet the mother will not let me discipline the child because hes not here that much ,she feels guilty,,,so everything was the same for 4 years my partner even went back to court to try and get full custody of this darling child which secretly i prayed she would not ,and at the time my prayers were answered, she lost..i told her it was Gods will for him to be with his dad more because we could not handle full custody of him, his dad is srict ,thats why he doesnt want to live there he wants to live with us because he feels he can have a constant party at our house with no consequences,,so year 5 hes doing bad in school lying , hideing ,or loosing his work,his dad is pissed so he becomes stricter as most normal parents would do ,barely passes 5th grade ,its summer,the weekend hes suppose to come over ,by this time hes 12,i get a phone call,its mom with oldest claims bio dad beat up the boy brings him too the house ,we look at him,sure enough slight bruise on side of head.He lifts his shirt has 2 belt marks across his back,she immediatly takes him to police station ,they press charges on bio dad boom we have custody,this is the most depressing day of my life,but for my partner the happiest,so now he is in our home everyday ,which means he will never leave!!!!!So now the last couple of months have been so hard and it seems to be getting worse,my partner has been in the mental hospital because she can not handle the stress of this child ,but yet she will not blaim it on him she blaims it on work or she cant figure out why she is depressed,hes additude is so bad he talks to her like shes a dog ,then the other day told me to shut up he better be glad his mom was in the room to grab me ,or i would probably be in jail right now for child abuse,he has become a total disrespectful punk and he is only 13.on top of that we get no support from his bio dad ,he has not seen him or tried to contact him since the incident,nor has he contacted his parents ,12 year olds grandparents,he goes over there evry once in awhile ,not enough!! his grandparents even offered to help us with him and take him more when we felt like we need a break but she will not send him over there ,because he doesnt want to go ,unless there spending money on him,what a darling,so i guess she wants to be poor,because this kid eats everything in the house ,hope you dont want icecream because its gone ,or cereal ,im to the point where im hideing food in the drawers of our bedroom to keep him from eating it,he disgusts me ,and when he eats or chews gum he smacks his mouth like a farm animal,and then i have to here his mom say" stop smacking" a hundred times,He is still doing bad in school barely slideing by ,he says he can pass as long as he doesnt make 7 Fs for the year,says everybody at school makes fs,he is F!@# crazy!!!It is so bad the 9 year old cannot stand him ,a 9 year old disgusted by a 13 year old,he keeps asking what age can the 13 year old move out that he cant wait until that day,then the 13 year old says "you will be like me when your 13 " then the 9 year old says " i will never be like you i have a brain"he tells him hes going to live out on the street when hes old,i say nothing ,because i agree with the 9 year old ,this kid is a complete loser ,there is no hope ,, we tried medicine . He said he felt dizzy,doesnt want to take it, tried counseling doesnt work. i just want him out of or house ,i want him to go live with his grandparents for awhile,but she wont hear it all we do is fight over this kid which makes me hate him more,i just dont know what too do, he will probably end up in juvenile detention soon ,should i just wait it out and avoid him all the time, Im scared to leave the house though when he is home because she falls asleep on the couch and he gets into everything ,im afraid to leave my dog there ,afraid he might do something to her ,but i just cannot stand to be around him anymore,,i feel like this is a terrible situation ,and yes i have tried to bond with the boy but like i said hes crazy ,he realy has serious issues,,does anybody else have this problem?