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Hoping BM will check herself @ the door Sat night... Uggghhh!

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Submitted by GreenEyedSM on Wed, 01/27/2010 - 7:37am

I need some support & encouragement. I am going to my first event w/ DH Sat night that BM will also be attending. Anything I have gone to before for skids, BM has not been there. The event is a musical that SD10 is in & it's over an hour long. DH, I, BD11& BS9 will all be going together. BM & her parents will be attending. BM will be bringing DH's other 2 daughters with her so I just
know we will end up sitting near her. In the past I have always been cordial with her, although many times she has been mean & rude to me (see previous blogs). She is only mean & rude when skids are not around, or when talking to my DH when I am not present. IMO she is still not over the divorce& that is why she acts nice one week & like a complete bitch the next.

I have always taken the "High Road" & never say anything or do anything when she acts in a horrible way. I do talk to DH about it & he has talked to her many times, not just because i asked him to but also because he wants things to be civil also. This is why after 6yrs together (4yrs living together & 1yr married), this will be the first public event we all attend together.

I have wanted this for so long, bug now I am extremely worried that she will say or do something inappropriate to me (or DH) in front of BKs & SKs. SD10 is so excited we are all coming to see her musical (especially BD11, they are BFFs)... I just hope BM will not seize the opportunity to indulge herself in a selfish public display of hatred.

I hope she doesn't ruin this for SD10 & everyone else! Sad

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Submitted by Amazed on Wed, 01/27/2010 - 7:48am

Well if she does act like a fool, you'll just act like a classy lady and ruin all her fun. hopefully she'll just behave herself and not be a jerk in front of her children.

I don't go to SD's events because Frizz can't control herself. It ends up being uncomfortable and ruining SD's time at her event. So i just opt out and let DH and Frizz play happy family for SD all they want. I don't need to be involved in that little daytime family drama.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

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Submitted by GiGi222 on Wed, 01/27/2010 - 9:13am

Unfortunately you will most likely have to continue taking the high road. Anything that you feed into regarding her will you looking like the fool.
Good Luck, I know how hard than can be Smile

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Submitted by folkmom on Sat, 06/12/2010 - 8:44am

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Submitted by GreenEyedSM on Wed, 01/27/2010 - 4:34pm

Yikes Folkmom... That is just aweful! I don't think BM is that crazy... Hopefully she won't prove me wrong! I have thought about opting out, but my BD wants to go & would not be comfortable without me there. I will take the "high road" again... No matter what she does. One- this is who I am & Two- I would never stoop to her level, especially in front of my children& skids.

I definately believe keeping your emotions in check, rather than being a mouthy evil bitch, proves you are a stronger woman!

Thanks for all of your input. I will let you know how it turns out!