I am SO grumpy today, my SD left to visit the "other" grandparents with her little newborn daughter last Thursday. I was really looking forward to it! I know it is horrible, but my house had become a place of personal dread. Ever since baby arrived, SD has been rude, whiney, and LAZY!! DH has been totally supportive of - well - you guessed it - SD. It had been getting on my last nerve. I've been trying to keep communication lines open, but it has been a little weird. DH went marching through the house last week announcing that SD was the best mom on the face of the planet. (WHAT??? Where the heck did that come from? Best Mom on the Face of the Planet? Doesn't get out of bed before noon, lives in a pig sty of a room, has only been a mom for three weeks, WHAT???) not that she isn't a good mom, for an unwed,destitute teenager, with no place to live, couldn't afford medical care, that doesn't help around the house, and is pissy about house rules. But she might be a really good mom - in time. She won't sign baby daddy up for CS, because it would be "inconvenient" for him right now - as he doesn't have a job... mmmmm..... YEAH? Inconvenient? I am grumpy - but that ticks me off NO END! Inconvenient. Boy oh boy...

But, I was SO looking forward to this week without SD! I was going to "reconnect" with DH. Try to have a few partnering talks, have some adult time together, you know, romantical stuff. Well, I could chew off my own left leg and have as much fun as I am having right now! I planned a little date on Sat eve - a haunted prison thing that I thought we would both enjoy, and a dinner. So - we go out and the restaurant was heinous! And then the haunted thing - well, that was a bust. A carefully planned, not cheap date, total bust. Then Sunday - maybe I won't chew off my left leg, maybe I'll sew his lips shut and duck tape him to the wall. He spent the entire day criticizing me - every little thing - AND not just criticizing - but telling me how to do it and how his dearest little best mom on the planet would do it! I wanted to slap him silly! WHAT IS UP??? Anyway, I rallied a few times, but I really wasn't expecting this type of behavior. I need to figure out what to say back - if I say much of anything, he takes it as criticism of his precious. And, of course we can't have that. Gollum Gollum..

And - to top it off, SD's girl friend keeps coming over. (Even though SD is gone). The rub is, I like her. But DH has been going on about how we are helping out a poor starving college kid. (um... She lives at HER parents house! she is fully fed, we aren't doing anything of the kind!) She is going through what I consider a sort of normal young adult, self identify separation from her parents. All we are, is a place to hang out that is not her house. I like that she is friends with my SD, and I think she is a good influence, but really. My DH and my SD have insisted that my house is her house. I don't know what to do - but is it weird that a twenty something would hang out with two middle age people like this? So - my DH has made a few remarks about wanting some privacy - but he made this bed. I have set limits on the youngling coming over this week, but don't feel right totally banning it. Just right now, it is plucking my last nerve.

So I am grumpy. It probably isn't as bad as all that, but I am finding that I have less ability to just roll with things before I get grumpy these days. I figured I would talk with my DH about rules and limits (again), but sometimes it seems like he takes the exact thigns I say during these talks as the list of things to violate. Again - probably not as bad as all that, but I REALLY wanted to have this weekend and this week as some quality, together time for us, and it just doesn't seem to be working. Oh well, if you ever are driving around and see some poor guy duck taped to the outside of his house - chances are he deserved it!!