Just to catch everyone up, dh and bm live in a bad neighborhood. I moved out with my littles to give them a better start in life and because I didn't feel safe there. Dh asked for a seperation because we never saw each other. We decided to work on seeing each other more and putting our relationship first but also in the mean time come up with a plan because living apart isn't working. Dh offered bm in writing to double her child support and not try to lower it till the kids are grown if she moves to a better area of town. We set parameters and she agreed.

In May I had to move out of dhs house and across town. The area dh lives in is not the best and the final straw was my son getting jumped at school. I moved my kiddos to a better area of town and they are thriving. Dh then changed custody of his kids from eoweekend to eoweek. He didn't feel he had to discuss this with me because we didn't live together. I can kinda see his point but then I don't because it limits the time we can see each other. My complaint is dh and I see each other on Saturdays/Sundays and that is it.

Ds is walking to the library after school which is 2 blocks away from school and staying there until I can get him after work. Dh and I talked more about moving this weekend and he said he would move if his kids did. He isn't willing to move without them but I doubt bm will move.