How is this MY FAULT!!
Ok, in my last blog entry I mentioned how the SS7 and SD6 woke up Friday night at 2am and picked up and called BM crying because they missed her so much. This crying BS is new... they have been staying every other weekend with us for a year we have never dealt with this crying problem before.
BF was at work. It's month end and to avoid having to go in over the weekend, and taking time away from his time with the kids, he went in to work at 10pm - 2am after the kids were asleep. At 11pm I checked on the kids and saw they were sound asleep and went to sleep myself.
He comes home at 2am right as they are making their tearful call to BM. Fast forward to Monday and BF gets an email from BM saying that them calling her at 2am is MY FAULT! How is this my fault. They never came and work me up. If they had I would have sat with them and explained how it's ok to miss mommy, etc etc etc and then I would have put them back to bed.
It was 2am and I was sound asleep! I didn't leave the house to go party somewhere.
AAARGHHHH.... it's like she pulls crap out of thin air to use against me.
She told the kids that 'Daddy is breaking the law because it's illegal to live with someone you're not married to.'
I swear this is some kind of crazy woman!
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SCREW her !!
Don't let it get to you...I know it's easier said then done but you gotta save your own skin.
I deal with the same kind of crap from BM all the time and it's sooooooo frustrating. I really feel for you and understand your situation.
You know that you did nothing wrong and that, is the most important thing.
BM might try to make you feel or seem bad but hey, SCREW her! She is not worth it, don't waste your energy letting her make you feel this way when you knnow you did nothing wrong and would have avoided that situation if the SK's would have woken you up. But they didn't, and you can't control that.
Maybe take a few minuts to talk with SK's and tell them that next time they feel like this, you would prefer them coming to wake you up before they decide to call mommy. That way, you can avoid all the crap.
Good luck and don't give up !
Chaoticsteplife
well unless you are a
well unless you are a extremely phycic (sp) how would you know they were awake calling their mom. Not your fault. For bm to say it is well thats disguisting. And where did she get the information living with someone was illegal??? then I guess half the world is breaking the law. Including myself a few times.
You are in a very frustrating situation. I would agree with the last post you should sit them down and let them know to come to you and wake you up next time.
bm sounds like a real winner.
Religious Zealot
BM is very religious. If she wants religion in the kids life that's fine but she goes overboard. The kids are saying grace at McDonalds when they are with us. (I think that's fine but at 6 and 7 kids really don't make that choice on their own IMO... she scares them into it) She told them tornado's are an act of god and he uses them to punish people!
OMG....she is crazy, isn't
OMG....she is crazy, isn't she. Sometime someone she loves will be in a natural disaster and she will be back tracking.
What
Way to scare little kids! go bm. That is sick.
I think that is abusive
Sounds a lot like my SDs
Sounds a lot like my SDs BM--she twist things no matter what the issue SM is always at fault. It happens to all of us, I feel for you.
I know all about that..
skids have done that here too. I think the BM puts them up to it (especially because of custody)...it makes her look good and she gets a loved, validated feeling from her children because they can't "live" without her.
We know what she's up too.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." ~Robert Frost
Hide the phones!
Unplug them! This is ridiculous. Your BF must tell them that is NOT OK.