I didn't win the war yet but I finally (again) talked to dh abut adult sd I had stopped talking to him about her and I took his advice I took my medication and we talked and he wanted to deflect reflect and accuse but this time I played it cool and let him finish and I told him find another way to interact with sd it make me uncomfortable he said I was silly and my feelings were wrong I said okay my mom want her place back help her move out by the end of month and I tol him after he dropped the j word (jealous) that if you don't find a better way of showing affection to her we are through. Today was one of the first days the sd gave us privacy. I may have to endure a little longer but not more than this month. Dh and I are talking and my children are happy I guess they could tell we weren't happy the littlest one said yeah your happy and back together. The damn we are I'm bidding my time and watching and waiting but I told him CLEARLY in no mistaken terms what I want so a victory YEAH me. Even though he got mad he heard me it was a beautiful thing. However the war continues.