Documentation of the instances of PAS. My DH is dealing with a BM who is attempting to erase him out of his daughter's life for good.

Over the past 7 years she has been doing things that have been documented very well by her and her actions. I will list things we document for you. We were able to get the court order changed to tell her to quit alienating DH and SD's relationship last year and the judge had her sign a memorandum of agreement - and yet she has still continued and has gotten worse..... to the point where DH has a court date to take her back for a contempt hearing 12 July.

Here is the list......

- Handwritten and signed letters from BM blocking access to daycare, school and doctor information

- Notes put in travel bag for SD that give incorrect information for medications... and tell DH not to bath SD

- Letters from daycares telling DH that BM has removed him from the list when he has joint custody and blocked him from activities involving SD

- Emails and texts from BM that are just crazy and nuts

- Notes from the trauma counselor who BM attempted to tell we were abusing SD. Those notes repeatdely tell that SD was not abused, loved DH and that mom stated she put her in counseling because she does not like to drive.

- Protective order where she stated DH tried to kill her and SD - it was dismissed as DH had proof he was checking in a hotel on the other side of town 5 mins before she claimed he was killing her.... and his mother was with him. It was the day before the custody hearing. Of course she didnt say anything in court about it. She filed after he was granted joint custody.

- We keep medication logs of when medicines don't come and when she tells him to over medicate the child

- We keep when she asks for extra money for events that SD is not enrolled in. She handed DH paperwork stating SD needed $3000 for a fashion show and when he called the Fashion Show coordinator - SD was not participating and the mother had pulled her the month before.

- She gives DH receipts for medication for which he owes 55% of - but more than half of the receipts never belong to SD. We keep that as well.

- Paperwork from BM filing child support enforcement court - after not getting a increase in district court.... back and forth for years - even after the judge told her not to come back for 3 years.

- and other things as well - DH has about 5 binders of information - he has been keeping.

- Now there are emails and text messages where she is not driving to the visitation exchange location as the court order states - she just does not want to drive at all. But can bring her with bogus receipts for extra money.

- we also have a copy of the school file... .where she gave them 4 year old information on DH so that he could not be involved in SD's life.

So if you document things that may even seem petty - take it all with you to court. Make sure you are consistent in documenting these things - as it will be pertinent.

PAS may be difficult because most courts do not acknowledge PAS. But they do acknowledge Hostile Aggressive Parenting, and it is considered child abuse.

http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/