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Submitted by dsmontante on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 9:50pm

My husband I have sole, legal, physical custody. We received the two boys 3 years ago from Child Protective Services. This Mother is still mental and unstable. The courts allow her to see them unmonitored. Tonight they came home and the 6 years old is acting out.
Talking back. It is really hard as a stepmom that has had these boys for 3 years. I just cant hardly take it when they come home and I know she has been talking crap. They act distant and different when they come back. They were only with her for 4 hours. What do I do to get through to them I am not the bad guy.

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Submitted by dsmontante on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 9:51pm

Explain how your 730 evaluation went. What to expect? The ex wife is the mental one.

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Submitted by pafreema on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 10:14pm

As they get older they WILL start to see who the bad guy actually is - NOT YOU; HER! THE SKIDS WILL START TO NOTICE WHO HAS/HAD DONE WHAT FOR THEM. THEY WILL BEGIN TO SEE WHO ACTED IN THEIR BEST INTEREST AND WHO DID NOT.

JUST BE PATIENT AS HARD AS I KNOW IT MAY SEEM! I WILL BE AROUND IF YOU EVER NEED SOMEONE TO VENT OR TO TALK TO.

JUST HANG IN THERE!

PAFREEMA

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Submitted by dsmontante on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 10:36pm

Thanks so muc for your reply it was my first contact on this sight. I have been looking for an outlet. To vent to someone who would understand. I have been crying for 3 days. We are going to go through a 730 eval. and I dont know what to expect. My mom is gone. I am really close with her parents and family (the boys grandparents)
But I really dont want to cry to them. They think the world of us. But I still feel alone.
My husband is supportive but he is not sure what to do sometimes. Thanks I need someone

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Submitted by dsmontante on Thu, 08/20/2009 - 10:20pm

Thanks so much you are my first reply and I have been crying fot 3day. We are going through a 730 evaluation in Sept. all new. We have only been married now going on 4 years and didnt plan on having his boys. It's all good, dont get my wrong. I love having them. There mother is so unstable and has her new boyfriend believing her. We do have the support of her whole family. But I dont really like crying on there about there crazy daughter. My mom is gone and I feel alone sometimes. Thanks I need someone to understand me.