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Therapist Cancelled

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Submitted by drew on Sat, 04/02/2016 - 10:11am

I woke to a text that the therapist cancelled due to dire personal issues. FUCK!!

Wife and I were supposed to meet her this morning. I hope the therapist situation is OK but fuck me. So, I tell the wife of the situation via text. Meanwhile my mind is racing as to how to move forward. 15 mins later Wife texts me back saying how I hadn't offered up meeting her regardless and how much I must think of her not to do so. I reminded her that it was only 15mins ago and I'm trying to get my head straight - I had so much riding on meeting with the therapist.

Anyhow, at the end of a text back, wife suggest we meet outside Petco to "tell her for the thousandth time how much she does wrong". Me, thinking this is sarcasm, didn't take her seriously. She wrote back that she's at the store and will be out shortly. WHAT?!?! I tell her how I had perceived her suggestion and then proceeded to get told how selfish and childish I am. Yet twice I've suggested meeting after the kids went to bed to talk and she's been unwilling to do so.

It's maddening.

I've been offered a part time job with shitty pay but that's all I have at the moment. It's not forever but it's something. I've also been offered a job overseas at a friends company, but i'd have to be out of country for a year. That would be hard for me though it would allow me to earn a lot of money in savings when I came back stateside. A nice fresh start and plenty of experience.

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Submitted by FrenchPeas on Sat, 04/02/2016 - 3:49pm

Dude, you're married to the female version of my exh. My counselor let me know I had been emotionally abused as well.

Get the hell away from her. She could be NPD or a sociopath. Good luck and RUN!!!

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Submitted by Indigo on Sat, 04/02/2016 - 4:39pm

Vote: overseas job. For many of the same reasons that others have mentioned. Get yourself out of the "web of influence" of your current wife. Take a breather. Remember who you are and what you are capable of accomplishing.

Scary-as-shit, of course. My Ex-DH has worked overseas and then rotated in/out for the last 16 years.

Regarding your young child: Skype, Skype, Skype. Can't Skype? Send emails daily with photos embeded. "Here is Daddy's desk. This is the view out of my hotel/apartment. This is the crazy old man I pass every day when I walk to work. This is where I buy groceries. Milk comes in a plastic bag. " Whatever. Snapshots of your life. Keep the connection. Don't worry about current wife seeing stuff, this is between you and your child. And, DOCUMENT. This electronic papertrail will be necessary if she throws up the "abandonment" issue. Red herring BTW, but considering what we've heard so far, not too far out of expectation.

Try the therapy route. Good idea. Keeping the family together is good if you and current wife can find a workable relationship. I can "hear" your vascillation and confusion and frustration in your posts. BTW: you're not crazy or unreasonable.