SD12 is a Bully!
I've posted a lot on here about SD12 and the "girl drama" she is having in middle school. Here's an update.
Apparently a few days ago, someone made fun of SD on the bus. The kid said she can't straighten the back of her hair (lol, actually true though). By the way, the other kid is in 6th and SD is in 7th. Even though SD "couldn't remember" the other stuff this little kid said to her. It escalated to SD saying "they were going to fight"? What in the white trash Jerry Springer is this!?!
Well the next day DH stood outside our house waiting for SD12 to get off the bus. She doesn't get off at our stop. SD12 stayed on the bus and waited to get off at the next stop with this little kid! DH confronted SD and asked her why she didn't get off the bus and followed this other kid to the next stop. SD12 told DH it's because she was going to follow and record a video of what she was saying. Um, can you say HARASSMENT? Following someone... recording them... SD12 is crazy. I get a lot of feedback that this is just "teen girl" drama. But I can't imagine that ALL teens do this. Am I wrong here? Seems extreme.
DH then said SD started lying and tried to talk her way out of the story she just fabricated. "eyeroll* DH recognizes how ridiculous all of her behavior is. I JUST CAN'T!
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I agree it's extreme. My
I agree it's extreme. My older bios were that age before phones and that just complicates things. Did DH take it away from her at all? Any consequences for her?
I just refreshed myself in your story. Have you done any reading on mean girls? Years ago there was a book called Odd Girl Out by Simmons. I see it's been updated. Cheap copies on Amazon. Get it for your husband. Men don't understand this. It was helpful to me when I was in the thick of middle school with my older girls.
Good idea! He usually takes
Good idea! He usually takes her phone for a day or so... but doesn't seem to fix anything. Then back to the same ol' drama.
DH and I raised three
DH and I raised three teenagers in our house and if my DD22 ever exhibited this kind of behaviour I'd be all over it. Your SD's behaviour sounds unhinged.
I'm not so sure the behavior
I'm not so sure the behavior is actually unhinged.. it sounds like another kid has been making negative comments to her.. (and 6th vs 7th grade doesn't make the other kid a little kid vs SD.. for all we know the lower grade kid could be older).. and SD may be embarassed to repeat some of the things.. so she is not wanting to repeat to her dad.. and honestly.. maybe trying to get proof of it on her phone would get someone to step in?
Maybe I'm reading this description wrong.. but it sounded like another kid said mean things to SD and SD was trying to get proof on her phone.. I don't necessarily see that as stalking.. though taking matters into her own hands could end up poorly.
Oops! Little as in a year
Oops! Little as in a year younger, but also physically, about half of SD's height. DH already knows the other kid as he is friend's with their dad.
It would appear your SD12 is
It would appear your SD12 is helping to create the drama. I know my kids have told me about fights, or people recoding stuff and posting it, but my kids have never done that. Spawn was a lot of drama when she was a teen, but that’s because she created a lot of it for herself then tried to play victim.
That is above and beyond even
That is above and beyond even for my SDiablas. They had lots of friend troubles but never got into physical fights or followed someone.
BM on the other hand followed me and my BK at the grocery store. She also just showed up unannounced at my house 3 times. Cray cray
OSD has trouble keeping friends because she is controlling, dramatic, whiny and judgmental. Even other teen girls get sick of that nonsense.
YSD is a bit of a recluse and very picky about who she will hang out with.
BM taught both of them that they are too good to hang out with anyone that is not in an upper socioeconomic status even tho BM wouldn't have a pot to piss in if it weren't for DH being generous in the divorce.
I can't even begin to fathom my BK's having these types of problems. lots of friends... no mean girl bs
Same with BM here! BM
Same with BM here! BM followed me to my workplace when DH and I started dating... and found out what car I drove. This was about 6 years ago... but I started to have flashbacks when DH told me SD12 drama! They are the same person!