mini wife syndrome in my family
My cousin is a father figure to a 15 yr old girl (i'll call her Zoe) and recently her mother moved out of state. Zoe decided to stay and live with him. She was 6 when my cousin came in Zoe's life so basically thats her "dad" to her. Well my cousin is now dating a wonderful gal and she moved in recently. It makes me sick to see the Zoe's behavior. She pets my cousin (touches arm and thighs), kisses him on the lips (just a peck, nothing more), sits on his lap... basically mini spouse syndrome. He wont see it, even after a counselor and his mother told him about how inappropiate it is. Even after Zoe was told she could put my cousin in jail or even prison, make him register as a sex offender, and make him lose his career bc of her behavior she wont stop. Ofcourse the girlfriend is sick of it and I can understand. She wonders if he just wanted her to move in so it wouldnt look so hinky with the girl living there. I've told her advice i've read on here and with the way it has been getting her only options are to disengage or leave. I feel bad telling her there is no options, but she can only control her reactions and her behavior. I worry my cousin will end up badly, but there is nothing i can do for him either.
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How bout he sends her back to
How bout he sends her back to BM because of the risks...
He doesn't want her to end up
He doesn't want her to end up like her brother. He is a father to 3 kids he doesn't support, doesn't work, uses drugs etc...he wants to "save" this one. The bm is a friend parent, actually I wouldn't even say parent. She allowed one of her sons gf to live with them when she was 16 (son was also 16, girl had great parents too obviously) this of course led to grandbaby #1. He doesn't want Zoe around those influences.
Well then I would entertain
Well then I would entertain the idea that maybe he is in love with her too just waiting for her to come of age, and wash your hands of it.
Thats where I am it with it.
Thats where I am it with it. It just sucks when its your family thats creepy. Also feel bad for the gf.
My cousin is in his early
My cousin is in his early 40's.
I was thinking the same thing
I was thinking the same thing . . Obviously your cousin enjoys her attention/affection. This is sad. Tell his GF to move on because it sounds like Zoe already has his heart.