double standard
I was sitting here letting my mind wander. A flash back came to mind: at some event skids also attended they were being rude as usual. SO said nothing to them Ofcourse, well while they were leaving and gave everyone hugs (except me) I muttered some thing to the effect of "thanks for being assholes as usual". SO heard me and told me I was being rude and it was not called for. WTF!!!
Not that this is a hot issue anymore, I just remembered this and it kind of pissed me off. I usually hold my tongue around them but after an extended period of time I was beginning to lose paitence.
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Thanks, i felt much better
Thanks, i felt much better for saying it bc atleast my feelings mattered to someone (me).
We've had this discussion, he
We've had this discussion, he has seen some of the behavior they have done. This event happened sometime last year when he still had all of the blinders on. There is still some things he doesnt see or understand, but I dont even bring the issues up anymore. I know its a mute point for the most part and since we dont ever see them thanks to his laziness and theirs he doesnt have to see the rudness.
My SO has very little ability to communicate or express his feelings, he doesnt want to cause any conflict so we avoid anything that might at this point. Makes for a boring life at times.
When I did explain how their actions were hurtful he'd usually say "They are adults and I cant stop their behavior." Me "But you could say something, you know stand up for me?" Him "I guess". But of course nothing was ever said or ever will be said. I should amend that he did say something to one of the skids in a text, but never directly. The action did help a lot and the skid apologized to me, but since neither party wants any relationship it was a small victory.
I am to the point that I know its a problem, but I keep quiet about it because it won't do any good to bring it up.