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Submitted by disengagedfeelingood on Tue, 09/26/2006 - 1:45pm

My husband's exwife calls all the time. She denies this. So I asked him to keep a log for one month (30 days), he did. In thirty days she called him 54 TIMES!! He made copies to show her the date, the time, and the reason. She still denies making all these phone calls!! They have three children together, but still the phone calls are ridiculous!! What is a person to do? We can't change phone numbers, because of the kids. She calls our house phone, work phone, and his cell phone. I have an exhusband and we have two kids together. I never talk to him. Please help!!

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Submitted by skye22 on Tue, 09/26/2006 - 2:15pm

One thing we did when the phone calls became constant was to directly tell my stepsons mom that unless it was an emergency to put it in writing. I think at one point we even had to explain the concept of what emergency means. Sometimes she does and sometimes she doesn't but the good thing is that we have caller id on our home phone and cell phone so we usually just let her leave a message. If its important we will call her back. Just an idea. How old are the kids? There is no reason to call that many times in one month. or 3 okay but that is excessive. I wouls put my foot down! Good luck, the lady seems like a stalker Smile

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Submitted by Bobbi on Tue, 09/26/2006 - 3:18pm

We got rid of our house phone, so now the ex can only call on my BF's cell. When she calls, he lets it go to voicemail and listens to the call later. If he thinks it's important, he calls her back.

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Submitted by Nymh on Wed, 09/27/2006 - 5:00pm

Get a caller ID box that can save the list of numbers. Or better yet, just give her a copy of your phone bill, that'll have a list of every time she's called with the length of the call and everything. I suggest the same as everyone above me - if you know she's calling, let her leave a message. After leaving about 20 or 30 messages she'll get the idea.

Biomom calls us all the time, at least once or twice a day even when SS is not here. It's all pretty meaningless stuff that could easily be saved up and all covered in one 10 minute phone call at the end of the week, but nooo she feels compelled to call every time she has something to say no matter how insignificant. She calls at least 3 or 4 times every day that SS is with us (which is only twice a month). I don't understand her need to check in on him so often but we can't really do anything about it.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by disengagedfeelingood on Thu, 09/28/2006 - 12:23pm

Thank you for your replies. We do have caller id and we have sent several phone calls to the answering machine. If she doesn't get my husband on the house phone she calls the cell phone. She leaves messages like this "please call me back it's about the kids", then when he calls her back it's usually NOT about the kids. But with that you never know. SHe is a compulsive liar. My husband is so soft hearted if he doesn't return the phone call and something bad has happened to one of the kids he would be upset. It's a darned if you do and darned if you don't situation. Their children's ages are 7, 4, and 2. My husband has joint custody with her, but still that is no reason for so many phone calls. She just called the other day and asked my husband for a set of jumper cables. It's crazy. Anyways thank you for the ideas. I really like this site!