dodged a missle.  in retrospect it is SO not worth it.

I know it's painful, but you could not have continued in this situation where he aligns with his kids against you.  Take care of yourself.  Any woman he dates will get the same treatment, so don't blame yourself.

desperateforhelpnow,

So sorry to hear about the divorce.  I know you must be feeling awful, but after I read some of your previous posts, I think you are better off.  You have an opportunity to create your own life and happiness for you and your daughter.  This man and his kids have way too many issues.  He sounds like a jerk for the way he has treated you so the faster you can get him and his baggage out of your life and out of your way then, you and your daughter can be happy.  Just think, you don't have to deal with their crap anymore and you don't owe them a thing.  You would have spent a life of misery continuing with him.

You are feeling a sense of rejection and loss because of how he treated you, and the nerve of him to file for divorce.  Stay strong and continue to move on.  You will get better and you will be stronger.  

You never had a chance.  Those kids were never goiing to accept anyone who took attention away from them.  Make sure you get a good attorney and don't make the mistake of trying to prove to him that he is making a mistake by giving up what is yours in the divorce.  The marriage will never work even if he would want to get back together.  The kids will always manipulate him into breaking it off again.  So don't bother playing that game.  Make sure you get what your attorney tells you you are entitled to get.

  I am sorry you are going through this.  The end of a marriage is never easy.  This would have been miserable for you though.

 But to be honest…I would have divorced someone who treated my child the way you treated his son.  I say that not to be mean, but just so you will know for your next relationship.  The kids did not mess up your marriage.

 I am sure you will come away from this stronger than before.  Good luck.  It will get better for you but it will take a little time.  Sorry this is all happening. 

Consider this a blessing, a Christmas gift that was given to YOU. The marriage and all the chaos was too much (from reading your previous posts). I'm surprised you didn't file 1st but either way please be kind to yourself, allow yourself time to grieve & heal, and ALWAYS take care of you.

I went back in time and read your previous posts. It seems like this is for the best. You are young enough to start over. Just get a good lawyer, and focus on DD. Im sorry that things had to end this way! You sound like a very nice caring person. Your SS's issues run very deep. There are no instructions for how to deal with things of this nature. 

Take care - and keep us posted.

Hugs for you for dealing with all of this.  I read your previous posts and it looks like this may be best in the long run even if it hurts so much right now.  Your DD needs you and a calm and loving environment and even if it takes awhile for the dust to settle, eventually it will.  The separation of homes was another blessing in disguise as it helped you and DD to adjust to living without.  

I don't think that his harshness to you was warranted and I would have acted the same as you, it is natural under the circumstances.  I feel the reaction you received from them was a little overboard and you were obviously sorry.  Everyone makes mistakes, we are all human. 

Reading your previous posts makes me really wonder if this was DH intention months ago when he first moved out and how your home and relationship really was?  It just seems odd that he makes this decision in such a short time without realizing your regrets and trying to understand what this situation has put you and DD through.

Hugs again and best of luck!!