Another marriage bites the dust - update
Well it’s been a while since I last posted. Last time I was here was having a hard time after hysterectomy and dh putting his adult daughter narcissist bitch first. Anyway we were about to split and decided to try counselling for a while. For a while things looked like they might turn a corner until things got far worse!
it turns out she is a lying piece of shit on top of a Disney daddy who coddles his oldest daughter. One issue we had always had was he was never transparent financially. I’d never seen his account or credit card statements. Anyway short story is we were talking about money and after we had almost split he had taken 3k out of our savings after I threw him out as he called a buffer. I kept asking him to put it back he denied spending it. Then a credit card he told me was paid off he said he owed 2k on. I was really kissed off and gave him an ultimatum show me the bank and credit card statements or leave. This was on the Friday by the Monday the credit card debt had risen from 2 to 6k then 8k!! He just kept lying I finally saw a statement and guess what it was 10k!! At this point I lost my mind. Looks like it’s all gone on her but he’s also been lying for 2 yrs!!! He refused to show me his bank account so no idea what else has been going on!!
if it was just the money we could have sorted it out but the constant lying and rather than at least try and resolve it he turned it onto me then fecked off to the mini wife . To be honest I’m well rid!! It’s been a month now and although I’m sad another marriage has gone tits up I’m so relieved to have those nasty biatches out of my life!!
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You did the right thing.
You did the right thing. Men like this never change. I left my ex dh after a 20 year marriage because I finally woke up and realised he wasnt going to change. I took far too long. I was a fool trying to keep the family together despite this. You are more sensible and have got out sooner rather than later.
As Maya Angelou said 'when a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time'
Thank you x
i thought in January it was over but I was so still desperate for him to change. He will never be capable of that or putting a partner/ wife first his priority will always be his daughter. I really did feel like the other woman , it’s really sad. Hopefully he will see the grass isn’t greener but that’s too late for our marriage. I’ve seen a few people on here say you don’t have a sd issue you have a dh issue and that’s 100% true!! I wasn’t ready in jan by by god I’m ready now. The immense relief I feel to have their dysfunctionality our of my life is overwhelming even my bs 12 feels the same. Everything feels calmer , the reality is xdh almost 50 just can’t take any responsibility and wants to live Day to day supporting their lives. He left with the 8 boxes of shit he had when he met me which he never u packed!! Adios!
Dang, depressed!!! Sorry to
Dang, depressed!!! Sorry to hear all of that. He sounds like my exH, who stole my CC number and maxed it out, and spent all of my 401K. And the lies. OMG. Some men cannot open their mouths without lying. Bloody pathetic.
{{{HUGS}}}
You go lady, if you can show
You go lady, if you can show he was removing money rapidly right before separation, I believe courts will give that some conisderation. It is worth a try, you are so much better off without this user!