Wow!!!!! Just wow!!!

OMG She's not "like your entire world". Seriously she's gotten her rude awakening and she doesn't like it. Tough sh*t welcome to the real world.

Pity party table for one, comes to mind. They are hurt because you went on a vacation and you didn't ask adult children to join? The definition of entitlement. I would think that letter was written by a 16 year old. "I don't think I am your entire world" OMG. I am so sorry you have this crap show.
How did your DH react to this? Like seriously this is messed up.

You had me at nappies. Here in this country (US), that means a short period of sleep...

What a spoiled ass brat. Lmao it’s so pathetic, it made me laugh

I would show this to the counselor and then tell how he has been treating you

Someone owes me a pair of glass eyes after reading that because mine jumped the sockets and escaped down the street after rolling so hard.

"All the attention on sgk"
She is jealous of her own child. Is it possible she is suffering from postnatal depression or is she always like this? If this is normal for her, she is suddenly finding that she is not the center of the universe which must be absolutely crushing. Hope you had a fantastic holiday away from the crazy!

"I never thought I’d see the day that I don’t feel like your entire world we have always been so close you have supported me and I have supported you but it doesn’t feel like that anymore. It feels like you have moved on without us. Like we don’t matter as much."

Yikes, we have the same SD! Mine used to tell DH this type of thing all the time. She was jealous of my young kids living with DH. Every time DH and I were able to go on a vacation, OSD would have a medical emergency show up the day before.

That girl needs to get an appointment for help.

WTF - and DH is jumping to make her feel special with DAddy Daughter dates?

I would be livid and I will tell DH - why not simply tell your daughter she's an adult, and married, and a mother it's freaking time for her to grow up....

How sad that a grown woman acts so infantile. Jealousy the green eyed destroying monster! So does she want to be treated the same as the 12 yr old and sgk?!

She and ss32 would be a great match, he started crying when he found out that my minor children were moving in with DH and I. Like the grown man baby was being replaced...sheesh.

The lunch with daddy was tossing down a gauntlet to see if daddy would run to her and leave you when you needed help. He passed her test and she’s thrilled. He’s so stupid that he doesn’t see she’s playing a game. He’s an idiot.

I hope you recover quickly so you can get away from his lame ass sooner.

He said he’d addressed all the things in the letter with her . Now they go on daddy daughter dates

Yeah, addressed it all, alright, by bowing down to her.

She contradicts herself, a lot, and it really does sound like it was written by a very young teenager. She is obviously emotionally stunted and your husband just keeps allowing her to manipulate and control.

He says that you're too needy? He needs to read that letter again!

Whoa... that girl needs to get some therapy.

Although, personally, I would not have "pulled her up" for not thanking you guys for a present. Honestly, if an adult has not learned to say thank you then there really isn't any amount of "pulling up" that is going to set her on the right path. The only thing it was going to accomplish was create a bigger conflict. The best way to deal with people not saying "thank you" is to stop giving them gifts.

And... if a message were to be delivered, it probably would have been better received from her father vs her SM.

I think your disengagement is the best way forward.

Gads. My parents had 5 children. Not ONCE after we aged out did they invite us on one of their vacations. SO WHAT?!?!?! We're adults!! That means we plan our own vacations!! If we wanted to tag along with Mommy and Daddy, we could be an adult and ASK them AND pay our own way. Sheesh.

SD is plain ol' JEALOUS of her little brother. Period.Dot.

“I am in a bad way mentally. “
Understatement of the year. She’s nuts.

Wow just wow, men are useless when it comes to their daughters! Mine is manipulated constantly and I fear this will be forever. She told him just that other day the his children should come first forever, not work not SM us only forever SD is 21 yes 21 she rings him at least 10 times a day to waste his time with BS, wants to to the gym with him blah p off that is our time not happening, beside what 21 yr old wants to hang out at a gym with their dad, what the! Lives at home rent free along with naccasistic 18 yr old SD, every time he try’s to be strong and finally parent them (very rare) and not Besty them they crush him, your a bad dad you never spend time with us and then he gives them everything they want and some! 18 and 21 grow up and get the f out is what he should be saying! It is shit at home for me and him yet he lets them walk all over us and won’t do anything about it. I dislike these girls emensly and I’m starting to dislike him because this is our future due to his being a friendthete is one thing I instead of parent, this we have argued over for years. The only solution for me is to disengage and have nothing to do with them and let him be run down by them on his own.

There is one thing I have just started to trial and that is make life miserable around the house, only when they are home, complain not to them but just him get the shits not at them but him when they do anything that pisses us off, go off at him for the same shit they don’t do but should every day (clean up after themselves), I have learnt that when ive got the shits with him and make him cranky enough he takes it out on them, (but that also works for them too when they puss him off it’s me that cops it) so I best keep on him hahaha
Then when they are not around even if they have just ducked down the shops flick a switch and change the whole dynamic in that moment to calm, relaxed and happy and do everything I can even if I’m shitty or depressed to make the time they are not around good ones and maybe just maybe he will wake up and realise they are toxic and need to go. Adult manipulating selfish SD’s not children anymore!