you go right on ahead and by that fur coat. when he bitches, hey, you told him about it and he never said anything. if in reality you can't do that, i would come unglued on his ass in a way that would make him NEVER do that again. a couple of years ago, sd and her bf came over. fdh went uptown to get dog food. i gave him my only $20 to get it. (we were both on unemployment and struggling horribly). the next day, i needed to get gas, i had school. i asked him if i had any change from the dog food. he said "yeah..." like he didn't want to talk about it. i asked him where it was, because it wasn't in his wallet or my purse. he said "i don't have it..." i don't know how he actually expected these non answers to satisfy me and make me drop the issue. i said "ok...then where is it?" at this point, i'm pretty irritated. he got defensive like RIGHTNOW, and almost yelled "i gave it to sd for gas! she only had a quarter of a tank!"

i was HOT. i told him that was MY money for gas for ME to get to school, not for him to give to her without even asking me. i told him if she didn't have much gas, maybe she should have just stayed home instead of coming over. i asked him how the hell he expected me to get to school, and told him that my schooling is more important than her running around. i was pissed for days. it still pisses me off thinking about it.

a few years before that when we were both working, he did something else that lit me up. i worked 3rd shift, and on friday mornings, i would do all my errands so my weekend was clear. i would fill the gas tank for the next week. i was in school at that time, too. i had to fill the tank twice a week for school and work. so i get ready to leave sunday night, and i have an empty tank. i told fdh i sure hoped he planned on replacing what he used. he just laughed, which meant he had no intention of doing any such thing. he had burned up my whole tank of gas getting sd and taking her home that weekend. it's not my job to supply him with gas to do that, and if he couldn't do it himself, she shouldn't have come over that weekend. when he laughed, i lost it. i yelled at him that i had to fill the tank twice a week as it was, which is expensive, and that i DO NOT have the money to fill it a 3rd time because he burned up my week of gas in one weekend. he got pissy and said he guessed he would have to fill it, then. :jawdrop: he "guesses"? wth?? like i'm an asshole to expect him to do that! i don't want the damn brat here to begin with, but i'm supposed to pay for the gas to get her and take her home? i don't think so.

that was the last time i EVER filled the tank on a friday morning. i started waiting til sunday nights on my way to work to do it, so sd's transportation would not be on MY dime ever again.

Ha! Sounds like my DH! I had a treadmill that worked, but had starting acting up so I got a new one. DH put the old one out in the garage and (I assumed) was planning on taking it to the dump. A few months go by and I happen to be out in the garage and notice that the treadmill is gone, but definately don't remember DH telling me that he got rid of it. So I asked him where it went. DH says "Oh, I thought I told you? I gave it to BM, she had said a while back that she wanted one, so I took it over one day when I was picking SS up" No DH you most certainly did NOT tell me that, you sneaky little bastard. I was furious!!! I hate that shit! He said that it saved him the dump fee and he thought it was kind of funny that the thing didn't work that well anyway. Well I don't think it funny that you continue to do these little "favors" for BM and then keep them secret from me, because you KNOW what you are doing is WRONG!

Argghhhh.. I feel for ya DeeDee

You need to do a shopping spree to make your point. It can always be returned, but it would definitely make the point when you come home with a pile of shopping bags from high end stores...

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