This week, my bio-Kid (13) had a dentist appointment. Because of work circumstances, her bio-dad couldn’t take her to the appointment as previously planned. So that I wouldn’t miss a day of work, I asked my SS if he could take her, and he said he was working but the GF wasn’t working and didn’t have class till 6 that night, so she “should” be able to take her.

Well, I texted GF (she never answers her phone) to ask if she’d be able to take my kid to the dentist. The text was at 2:00 in the afternoon.
No reply
Before I left work to go home 5:00 (three hours later) I sent a second text that said “I guess that’s a no??”
No reply

Got home from work and SS was out with the baby. He came home around 7:30 ish and asked if the GF got back to me about the appointment
Nope, she hasn’t

He said, “okay, I’ll see what’s going on”

She came home from school at 9, whizzed past all of us and went straight upstairs to their room.
Later my SS came downstairs and asked again, Did GF get back to you yet? No, she hasn’t… whatever

I figured that meant that she wasn’t going to be home.

Next day, I call out sick from work
Get my kid off to school, and proceed to get some cleaning done in the house
I straightened up the dining room, got caught up on laundry, etc.
Sometime around 11 I am on my hands and knees in the kitchen, cleaning dirt out of the corners of the floor
I had asked that they help out with the chores around the house… SS is doing his part lately, and has taken on extra hours of work, she hasn’t worked in weeks and still does nothing to help out cleaning and they still don’t pay rent

So around 11 the GF comes downstairs, gets a bowl of cereal, eats it in the TV room, comes back in the kitchen and since the dishwasher is running, she leaves the bowl and spoon in the sink
I sum up all of my patience and say to her “Hey, um, I’m almost done cleaning the kitchen and I don’t really want dishes in the sink. Do you think you could please wash that and put it away?
*huff
No answer
Begins to half-assed rinse the bowl, pour soap on it, rinse it again and puts the bowl and the spoon away wet
(whatever)
So as time goes by, I realize that she’s not going anywhere… they live rent free, and I asked her to do one simple favor by taking my kid to the dentist and she ignored me

I leave the house at 2, get the kid to her checkup, and am home by 3… the GF is still home, she hasn’t left the house or her room for that matter since she ate the cereal.

I finally felt like I had to say something.
I called up the stairs “hey GF, can I ask you something?”
“yeah”
Why didn’t you answer my text messages about taking BioKid to the dentist today?
“I don’t know”
“did you have plans or something today?”
“no”
“did you just not WANT to take BioKid to the dentist”
“no that’s not it, I could have taken her”
“really… you…. COULD have taken her… but you just decided NOT to answer me, even to say no you’re not taking her?”
“I don’t know”
“what don’t you know?”
(all the while, I’m standing at the bottom of the stairs, I see my grandson, standing in the crib, I assume he just never leaves the crib while she holes herself and the baby up there)
“ I didn’t get your text messages”
“you didn’t GET them??? did you change your phone number?”
“no”
“if you didn’t get my text messages, then why didn’t you say so in the first place when I asked you WHY you didn’t respond to my text messages?”
“I don’t know”
“have a nice day, GF”
At this point, I was infuriated! But I did not raise my voice, at any point during the conversation
I popped my head into BioKid’s room and asked her if she wanted to go with me to get a manicure, I had to get out of the house

“sure”
My cell phone battery was nearly dead, I sent DH a text, me and biokid are getting nails done, cell battery almost dead, charging at home, c u later

By the time I got home, I had four missed calls on my cell from my DH
I called back and he said “did you and GF have a fight? She called SS crying that you yelled at her”
I told DH exactly what had transpired and he told me that the little witch gave a completely different version of the story, about my screaming at her, and slamming doors, etc.
This morning (two days later) my biokid tells me that my SS had stopped by her room to ask what happened. She told him she really didn’t know, other than “mom” came in and got her to go get her nails done after she heard me say “have a nice day GF”
He asked her about the door slamming accusation and everything else… see I was standing practically in front of BioKid’s bedroom door the whole time I had the conversation with GF… if I were screaming or yelling or even raised my voice, BioKid would have heard the whole thing

She told him she knew nothing of any door slamming and said to him that if he wanted to know any more he’d have to ask “mom” because she didn’t hear or know what happened

NOW she’s ‘threatening’ to leave…because I “don’t like” her
Well no shit I don’t like her, she’s a lazy freeloader, who is sucking my SS dry of every dime, lives in our house for free and doesn’t lift a freaking finger to do anything to help out around the house that she lives in!

Thing is, I have her number… she’s not going to leave. She goes back to live with her mother and her grant money goes away, and her welfare goes away.
She doesn’t report that she’s living with a family who is supporting her, she reports that she’s ‘renting’
So since she’s a single mom out there “on her own” she gets every benefit available to her handed on a silver platter
Grant money to go to school
Cash assistance
Oh and if she leaves and tries to get child support, the cash assistance goes away
Threaten all you want, honey! I have diaries of how you neglected that baby when it was first born, that my DH and I had to bathe him, because she never did, we had to change him because she never did, I have pictures of the diaper rash that was so bad, his skin was breaking open. (she’d go and stay with her mother for a couple days and the kid would come home with open sores on his butt)

I know exactly why she lives with us, I know exactly what happens if she does leave and I know exactly what to do if she tries to “take the baby away” from my SS

I honestly don’t think I’m going to get over this one!