Being the victim of physical, emotional and mental abuse I can honestly tell you these are just words to lure you back. And if you go back, things would be awesome for a while. Then once he (they) believe you're tied back in and complacent, it will start all over again.

Abusers need victims, it's much easier to get their old victim back than it is to groom a new one. Believe it or not, the most difficult step isn't leaving, it's staying away and not becoming caught in their web again.

If you are able, please get some counseling so you can find your inner strength and the courage you need to cut these ties. I have been in your shoes (without the kid) and I know what you're feeling right now.

These kind of men do not change. These are just words but look at them as a breadcrumbs leading to the ultimate trap.

(((((hugs to cpreston))))) Keep writing and keep coming back for support. Those of us that have been in your shoes will support you.

I know this has to be breaking your heart. Being torn is miserable. Your DH is making promises, only time can tell if he is serious. How long can you stay where you are? Is him proving himself for a while an option?

Too little, too late.

He should have been treating you like that all along.

I don't mean to be a jerk here, but I think this guy is a dick for bringing SS into it. Who the F does this? So in essence he has made SS partially "responsible" for the break up?? Nice, just nice.

SS may be 10000% responsible for the break-up but that should be between the two adults involved

Sorry but if he can't come over and start doing what he says them he doesn't mean it. Plus he text you not even called but text! He should be doing this in person and showing you the changes not just telling you them let alone in a text.

I already stated I think he is full of crap, but I just wanted to add that if I left my husband and he wanted to get me back, texting me is not the way to go about it.

When my mom left my dad they were in Cali. And mom took us to Ark. My dad hitched a ride from Cali to Ark just to get back with my mom. He meant it that he would change and he did but it took mom months to move back in other jim he had to prove it. But if he hadn't FOLLOWED her she never would have gave him a chance.

That's my point he should be doing something more than just pick up a phone and type. That is just pushing words. Its action he needs to be doing.

Don't go back! You left for a reason and that is the hardest part! Good for you! Keep your head up! The sky is the limit! Life is too short.

BE STRONG CP, please... think of YOU during all of this. You have made the first move, and that is the hardest part. Just stick to your guns sweetie. It gets easier. I went back out of pity once. Ended up having 2 kids after than and STILL ended up divorced. Actions speak louder than text, and he has MANY chances to ACT on it. He won't change.

I have to say that when I moved out, my DH changed. It's been over two years and he is still changed. However, he did get diagnosed and on meds for a few issues. He also went through treatment for alcoholism.

Actions speak louder than words. I would maybe let him show you how he's changed but take his words with a HUGE grain of salt.

If you're not taking calls then don't read his texts or emails either. It will be easier that way. Even if he thinks he means it, I guarantee he is not capable of following through. He is trying to be someone he's not because he doesn't want to be alone. He has to change for himself in order to be capable of maintaining it, he has to be by himself in order to demonstrate that change. In any case your daughter has made her feelings clear, she would rather not live with you than have to live with him again. If he really was as unfairly hard on her as you have previously posted then I would not put my daughter through that again.