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Oh how the tables have turned...

CompletelyPuzzled's picture

Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 9:05am

BM got a lovely surprise when the final custody order was sent out two days ago. She thought that she got away without having to pay CS. After DH's CS was stopped, BM cried to the judge that she was losing half of her monthly income. The judge told her that she would need to get a job. The judge didn't assign any CS to DH b/c BM isn't working. Well I guess, BM thought that meant she was free and clear. But, in the new custody order, it says she has 15 days after her first paycheck to send DH's attorney a copy so we can calculate her CS obligation.

BM told the SDs that she got a new job last week. So DH texted her the lawyer's address and asked that she send her info to him.

BM's response: "That's none of his business."

DH: "Yes it is, look at our custody order. Page 2, third paragraph."

BM: "I'm not paying you a dime. I will quit before you get any money."

Lol. She actually put that in writing. It was all fun and games when it was DH who was paying.

She also didn't realize that we are allowed to bill her for all of our out of pocket expenses for therapy, medical, and dental. This should be fun. We will never see a dime, but I plan to send her copies of every receipt.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 9:38am

I don't get how these bitches justify this crap in their small little minds???

DH paid CS for SD17 for 14 years and never missed a payment.... would often get requests from BM to pay early for some dumb reason, to pay extra and then take it off the next month etc... and DH would generally oblige, because heaven forbid he DIDN'T oblige then it would be "I'll take you for more CS" threats. Then when SD moved in with us??....[[crickets]]

Not one fucking dime paid in CS by BM during the 2 years that SD lived with us. AND when after a year of SD living with us and nothing from BM, DH filed for CS, it was a nuclear holocaust from BM when she got served. How dare he????? Even MIL's exact words were (and I kid you not) "How could you do this to her, she has nothing" What the ever loving fuck is wrong with people?

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 9:51am

I know what you mean. DH obliged and paid her CS after it was terminated. He was awarded temp custody in Feb. He had to stay in the girls home state so they could finish school. We live over 800 miles way. DH's job let him work remotely for a few months. But he had to go back to work at the office before the end of the school year. So the courts let BM keep the kids (under supervision) until the end of the school year. When DH was awarded temp custody, his CS was suspended. The judge never reinstated it. DH started paying again once they were with her again. He didn't want the kids to suffer. But now, he is selfish b/c he expects her to help out.

She, of course, reverted to her normal response, "What about my three other kids?"

I wonder how long it is going to take her to realize her other 3 kids aren't really our concern. And to make matters worse, she was hinting around to the girls that she might be pregnant again. SMH!

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Submitted by CompletelyPuzzled on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 9:54am

I plan on it. As far as I am concerned, she deserves to pay. She is the one who told DHS that DH never paid her a dime. Now we are fighting the state to get the balance removed. They are billing him for 11 years of back child support, even though he has paid every month. We have checks to prove it. Luckily, our lawyer got her to admit under oath that he paid her faithfully for all those years and she lied to DHS. Now, we are left to pick up the pieces and fight the state to get this astronomical balance ($30,000+) removed.

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Submitted by robin333 on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 10:00am

Wow, BM has no regard for the consequences inflicted on others because of her poor decisions grounded in greed. I can so relate.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 11:45am

You sound like me. I know we will never see a dime from BM, but I am always sure to send her receipts for everything. Just so she knows how expensive raising a kid really is.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 11:46am

Some women think that giving birth is enough, that's the end of their responsibility.

BM had custody of my SD and DH paid CS, but BM made sure to spend as little as possible on her daughter. I can say for sure that my SD was not spoiled! There is no way BM would have paid CS to DH.

Now that SD is 24 and has 2 kids and no job, BM is forking out money to SD, which I think is kind of funny. Well, I do think BM gets something in return, like food with SD's EBT card.

The sad part is, SD is now THAT BM. She has no job, is on welfare, takes money from her mom, and thinks that she is being responsible for her kids. She bad mouths her ex-husband for not paying CS (which I agree, he is scum) BUT then turns around and says that SHE is living up to her responsibility of taking care of her kids. No, SD, you are not. Us taxpayers are taking on the financial responsibility for your kids.