Husband did get a job he has an uncanny ability to get work thank God he's really good at what he does. And got a better schedule 4 tens my dream so he can be with SS more. Giving me a break 

He has adhd anxiety and possibly either fas or is on the autism spectrum. Howes getting him help is not realistic I spend 7 months back n forth with doctors to get him countless he won't talk to them n his Bio mom labeled me crazy for trying to get him help. Telling my dear husband I'm doing it becomes I don't want ss and he should just Quite fighting her n give SS back full-time because I clearly caint handle it lmmfao she I manipulating and so is SS10 he learned n copies so much of his moms behavior it makes me sick. Liying stealing from me doing inappropriate things with my neighbors 7 year old my 1 year old nephew watching porn posting nasty videos I mean he keeps me so busy n no one will help me Dad knows all this and gets embarrassed asks me hlideas on how to handle it. The one time he spanked him over the nasty things he was doing to my friends kids I was for an ass whooping on that one he is 10 no way he can say he didn't know better n to little kids makes him a predator. his behavior resembles psychopaths or sociopathic behavior I know he hurts my dog and I've seen things he does to yhe baby when he thinks no one's watching he's mean he hates me he is full of jealousy for his lil sister n I try talking to him about it telling him I love him asking and caring about him and his needs he needs shoes I buy them he needs hair gel or a special bath toy I always take care of him he wets the bed I tell him it's OK ill wash his things I try to be there for him but after a few days with mom he comes back and hates me for a couple days. the Additude the complaints about doing chores or just telling him to brush his teeth eat his food (healthy n he hates it its verry clear mom doesn't make him eat that) mom doesn't make him shower or get dressed every morning or do chores so I am the dreaded stepmom who is at fault for all his mom n dads shortcoming 

Schedule has been awful 7 months no visitation. Now it's per mom's request wed 10am to thur 6pm (so she can go party n drink with all her extra money from not supporting her kid) Then he's with us untill the next wen at 10am n returns sun 10am. My dream schedule would be Fri too mon cuz hunny is off sun mon tue n I'd only have a couple full days to keep him busy he requires alot of help attention and is super clinging follow u from room to room clingy. He will sit there just staring untill u give him something to do . I'll say u look board no I'm just sitting here. ok well dont go find someone to do or I'll give u something. Play Legos play playdogh play outside with ur 4 dogs  play with ur toys color do art Something besides sit here. He will go to his 1year old sister n take her toys or stop her from playing or exploring. Not to play with her no just to take things away or stop her or to sit next to her untill she hits him or climes in him (and again with the weird sexual behavior he has displayed I am NOT comfy letting her clime on his lap he gives me weird sneaky vibes n trys to hide with her I do not like it.)  Dad keeps asking why I always grab the baby when he trys to paly with her I tell him he's not playing with her if he wanted to play he can help her with a puzzle read her a story or play pretend with her tea cup but only where ibcan see them . it is alot and I love my husband but I hate being a stepmom everyone says he will appreciate me oneday but I'm not his mom he needs his mom to get her shitt together n I need to run away maybe with out my husband who will never fully grasp how hard this all is for me he's worried about his son im just here I wanted this and it's hard both are true but also I don't wanna do this anyway n love isn't enough to keep me in this situation I need change