Small Town, BIG lies. A Stepmothers Tale
TW * Domestic Violence * Death * (did I do this right?)
Prologue:
This story takes place in the filming location for Big Little Lies. And it somewhat accurately reflects the drama that takes place here. Except the opening scene directionally is wrong.
Chapter 1: The beginning
I have a woman friend, newish, older, retired. Sweet. Bought a house after retirement, a sweet beach cottage with two large palm trees in the front standing like sentries and in front is an endless field. Peaceful.
She happens to be the Stepmother to the person I buy my special jade earrings from. Whos BM happens to be very well-known and very popular and quite simply is EVERYWHERE. Shes a director on this board, that board, etc. Shes a colorful character, and very crafty. Lets call her Cunning Connie
Chapter 2: The middle
My sweet friend, lets call her Sweet Sharon. Sharon related some of her history with me - she met and married her stepsons father, had a child with him, he became violent on drugs and alcohol and he beat her so badly one time that it put her in the hospital. She took out a restraining order to stop custody visitation, and divorced him. She hid herself and child from him. This man had never married Cunning Connie but he DID marry Sweet Sharon.
Years go by, and Sweet Sharon retires and buys her peaceful beach cottage, envisioning building her social circle and enjoying what the area has to offer - especially after the hectic high powered job shed had in the Big City. She plots her renovations. Her child has gone on to graduate college, shes a teacher in another beach community north of us.
Enter Cunning Connie. Shes the jealous type, narcissistic, looks are important to her and as she has aged, all her photo ops are preplanned and cropped and filtered and approved, to keep that aura of COOL and CUTTING EDGE and ARTSY. Her social media accounts have not less that 1,600 "friends". She starts a social smear campaign against Sweet Sharon. Sweet Sharon tries to ignore it.
Their array of mutual "friends" both socially and on social media, grows. Cunning Connie makes an explosive post telling folks who associate with thee "person" who abused her child to please not invite her to things. I get a text from Cunning Connie telling me that it is Sweet Sharon, who she was referring to, that Sweet Sharon had beaten her son, to "get back at " his dead father, and that she had police records to prove the truth of her accusations.
Since I know Sweet Sharon and am a bit familiar with some of the things from her past, I think hard before blindly believing she would abuse a child, any child, and certainly not while shes getting beaten herself.
So, I call. Shes in the middle of making me a driftwood jewelry hanger. I ask her about the details, and tell her what is being said. She is in shock, and tells me "thats not possible, I was not around when Cunning Connies son was being beaten, it was his FATHER that was beating him. I had to run away and hide with my child. I have the restraining order and the court order to stop visitation!"
I am thoroughly disgusted. What the he!!. Why would Cunning Connie launch such a direct and bloody campaign against Sweet Sharon? Her own SON, who was sent to visit his father a KNOWN abuser, beaten by his father, not at all protected by his mother, and now accusing the STEPMOTHER, herself being beaten. The victims being Victimised over and over again.
Steps, this just happened, I kid you not. Keep detailed records of EVERYTHING if you can. Journals. Because even when its over, they grow up, they remarry, they die, it STILL comes back somehow.
Chapter 3: the end? Not by a longshot. Lawyers will be consulted with.
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Comments
Omg... Moral of this story, these type of people
NEVER grow up or grow out of being a nasty individual. Poor sweet Sharon!!!
I think there are a few things going on as to the motives
But, yes jealousy of a prettier person snagging her baby daddy is one.
How many years has it been?
Like, GET OVER IT! It must be so sad to live your life that all these years later, you are still mad about it. DH doesn't even want to be mad about BM taking away his rights to the child he thought was his and raised for years because it doesn't do anything for him to keep being angry about it!
Its a Twisted Tale
I have no idea whats in Cunning Connie's dark, venemous mind. But Sweet Sharon - I just saw some of the photos from her hospital stay. Shes not an abuser of children. period. dot.
How long...
1986-1993 is when she was with this douche.
That is just downright sad
On a side note, I love Big Little Lies and I did finally watch the House of Dragon and it was really GOOD! Except I hate how they never say blah years later and you are trying to decipher that when clearly time has gone by.
Yes. Small towns
they never forget, but they do forget somethings.
Sweet Sharon
Is tall with dark red hair...like nicole kidmans character who was abused. And her abuser dies...
That's sick.
That's sick.
I think she started attacking sweet Sharon because implicating her ex just reflects back on her own poor choices. If it's the stepmom that does the abusing then she gets to be a victim from several different angles. She has a lousy ex that picked an abuser her poor child was abused and it was the evil stepmother that did the abusing which nobody would question. With all of that she is unequivocally the hero of the story.
It blows my mind sometimes how much history gets rewritten after relationships end or people grow up. You're absolutely right about how you should keep records and journals. Memories are fallible and if you repeat lies enough they become truth.
you hit it!!!
As her popularity grew, Cunning Connie had to think of something to turn it around, and force people to choose, and keep herself relevant.
Time for Sweet Sharon to file
Time for Sweet Sharon to file a defamation suit against Cunning Connie. IMHO.
Sweet Sharon needs to flood social media with the facts, sue the shit out of Connie, file cease and decist orders, initiate an RO/PO and counter See-You-Next-Tuesday Connie's crap with the full legal, social, etc... consequences for her lies, slander, defamation of Sharon.
With the facts, Sharon needs to drag Connie through the community by the short and curlies (figuratively of course) for not having the testicular fortitude to deal with the Dead Abusive Baby Daddy effectivefly to prevent him from abusing Connie's son, Sharon, and Sharon's daughter.
This is the kind of crap that is a hill to die on IMHO. I would plant that flag and fight that battle until the bitter end.
Or... if Sharon is in a good place on her home value, sell, and find a place with better standards for running toxic Connies out of town, while she destroys Connie in Connies community.
Our "Connie" was the SpermGrandHag. She was well connected in the community, manipulative, toxic as hell, and was completely dedicated to stealing custody of my SS from DW while blaming my net yet DW for the Hag's statutory rapist son's shit. DW was a single teen mom who had SS-30 when she was 16. SpermGrandHag's serial statutory rapist son (The Spermidiot) was 23yo when my SS-30 was born.
The Hag pissed off my then single teen mom future DW to the point that DW made it her mission to destroy the entire SpermClan in ther small town community. I am proud to have helped my DW do just that. Law suits, cease and decist orders, flashing lights law enforcement vehicles outside of SpermGrandHags home, church, work, family reunions, family dinners out at restaurants, etc.... Any time the SpermClan twitched out of alignment with the CO my DW smacked the shit out of them with a rolled up copy of the CO, County Supplemental Rules for visitaiton, CS and custody, and the State of SpermLand's regulations. Figuratively of course.
DW was a poor single teen college student when SpermGrandHag went after her. DW did not balk at the confrontation, took out supplemenat school loans for a lawyer, and fought for SS. Bad move on the Hag's part. DW graduated HS with her class and with honors with SS-10mos on her hip. As the SpermGrandHag battle unfolded, DW went on to complete a dual major BS with honors, and MBA with honors, and to become a CPA with a successful career. Throw in my graduate degreed professional career/income, and the SpermClan was burried in more shit than they could dig themselves out of.
Ultimately DW won and SS won. Leaving the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool in his past, living a great life as a viable adult man, successful professional, and man of character and honor. In spite of the shallow and polluted SpermClan end of his gene pool.
SS-30 was 15mos old when my DW and I met and started dating. We married the week before he turned 2yo. I have always been his dad. He asked me to adopt him when he was 22yo. He had relegated the SpermClan to a small stench filled part of his past by then. SS is the eldest of 4 all out of wedlock Spermidiot spawned half sibs by three different baby mamas. Two of the mamas were under age and included among his several statutory rape victims. My DW included.
Spermidiot spawn #2 is on the dole, Spermidiot Spawn #3 is in prison. Spermidiot Spawn #4 is not far behind #3.
Your friend's situation just pisses me off.
Sharon needs to have her attorney subpoena/Depose her former SS and get him on record regarding his mommy's lies and toxicity. He needs to see the facts, Sharon's court records, etc....
End Connie for good by destroying her financially and socially.
IMHO of course.
In his defense, the Spermidiot never layed a finger on my wife or SS. When one of the witnesses in the Custody hearing alleged that the Spermidiot beat my DW, DW immediately expostulated that he never abused her. The Spermidiot, is a dumb ass pervert who likes knocking up underage girls. His mother, is an evil POS.
Sweet Sharon
Sweet Sharon in her former working life was a paralegal for a city attorney. Shes got Lawyer friends in the Big City.
Shes planning her strategy, and amassing her documentation. She called the PD for the different records and will get them Monday.
I told her she should journalise and get her timelines in order, and most of all committ to selfcare.
Sweet Sharon is blessed to have CLove in her life.
The bit where bio mums smear campaign against stepmom
Says i have police records to prove my claims that she abused stepson. Sure you do!! Sure you do!!
Yes she lied
My friend Sweet Sharon has boxes of police records and letters from the abusive ex husband. Shes meticulous.
In fact, the police department said that unless you are named in the police report, you cannot have access to it.
IF she does have one, she got it from the person named.
So you buy earrings from this
So you buy earrings from this stepson? You said your friend is a SM to the person you buy earrings from. Could he vouch that SM didn't beat him up?
id advice her to seek legal help to step accusations. I sm sure lawyer can help her to write a letter and sent to the person spreading rumors. She has no needs to collect evidence or defend herself. Unless police shows up at her door arresting her for child abuse, there is no need to defend anything she didn't do. A lawyer should send a letter to the person to stop all that. Social media is a vile place. Full or gossip and drama.
who's she planning to show these records and documentation and police reports and evidence she plans to collect? She's not being charged with child abuse so there's no need to show anyone any documentation.
My vote would be for Sharon to nail Connie with
a defamation suit.
Destroy her. At best Connie is a toxic victim. At worst, she is fully complicit in the life long abuse of her own children. Her narcissistic shit is ongoing even after the abusive XH she and Sharon share is proof of her own evil shit genetics.